If it were me I would go and be with her, It seems like your sister has not a lot of time left. The illness, treatment and medication can sometimes make people say things they would not normally say. If you go to be with her and just stay in the background to let her know you are there for her. Its better than getting the phone call to say its all over. I was with my wife when she took her last breath, the most absolutely devastating moment of my entire life, but I was so glad I was with her. ... View more

It is devastating when told the treatment is not working and will be discontinued, its is a time we thought would never arrive, because we thought something would happen to turn this around, hoping for a miracle I guess and then it dosnt arrive. My wife and I had been married for 37yrs when she retired age 55, we were going to have such a lovely retirement, she was dx with terminal cancer 11 months later. Cancer may have taken her, but it cannot take the love we have for each other. All strength to you and your family. ... View more

It is only words, and if you feel that you can beat this then go for it. It doesnt do any good to feel negative about this. Its like the today version of pointing the bone. Those that didnt believe in it were ok. As Winston Churchill once said, "if you find yourself going through hell, keep going". Keep going, Rubes 1984. Wombat4 ... View more

Hi Glenys.0 I hope you are doing as well as possible and getting through the treatment as best you can. I think about the people on this site a lot.I suppose I have moved to the next stage in this journey when the outcome has not been the best, as happens to some, some of course have positive outcomes and move on with a new perspective on life as a survivor. My boys are 30 and as young people are have a good future, ( fingers crossed ) and are moving on with their lives which is good. I am still in the legal complexities of probate for my wife, hopefully that will be finalised this month. Then it is day by day as it is now. God Bless to all. Wombat4 ... View more

Good luck with the treatment Jay may. Its good to be feeling that something is actually being done instead of just playing the waiting game. It is amazing how we accept where we are and then pull all our resources to deal with it. My wife and I would look on the chemo as a good thing as it was helping to deal with the cancer. Keep positive and strong. Wombat4 ... View more

What can you do, what can you say,If your wife believes that she will see this Christmas, then believe it with her, give her hope, something to cling on to, something to work towards. Whats the alternative, dash the hope, throw away the future plans, even if it is so. give her something to work towards, not just to sit around and wait for the inevitable. Dont be angry, it will only cause more upset than what you are going through. Who knows, my wife was given 5 wks and she lived on 2yrs with a good quality of life. Once hope has gone, it would be very difficult to regain it. The end may come soon enough, without living it every day until it is upon you.Your wife is the sufferer and you the carer, she shouldnt be asking you whats wrong, Look after her give her hope. wombat4 ... View more

Unfortunately when some people get over the initial shock of a family member getting cancer, and all the "if there is anything I can do, just call me,s" are said. They then wish to get it out of their minds and get on with their life,s plan, which of course doesnt involve and never did involve cancer. This is not all people of course, some family members and friends give wonderful and continuing support. With the head in the sand group. It is not their fault, it is just that they are not strong enough emotionally to deal with what can be described as one of life,s biggest challenges, cancer. You do what you can for your dad Noggin, and your conscious will be clear. The rest will have their own consciounces to deal with. ... View more

You have certainly have had more than your fair share of trauma, Mark A,and you have to be congratulated on your faith and resilience that have been a strong support for you. Nobody has an understanding of what it is like, until they are there. It is indeed a shock to be breezing through life and all of a sudden, in a heartbeat these insidious diseases decide that a loved family member or in your case members draws the ace of spades in lifes continuing game of cards, and the only reason it chooses a particular family or person, is that it can. I wish you and your family wellness. Wombat4 ... View more

Good on you mg, It must be truly wonderful to feel as if you are improving. Relish good health. Wombat4 ... View more

Depends on the relationship you had with your dad I suppose. If it was a close one then you may regret not being with him during his illness. The family are also sufferers when one gets the insidious disease of cancer, and all need the support of each other. Wombat4 ... View more