Thanks for your reply Geoff. It has been quite nice being back on the site. I have been re-reading some of the posts. I can read them now with fond, loving memories. You and Lorraine certainly went through a lot together. You were very blessed. I think we will always be caring and have a sense of fragility about us. I know I can take my experiences of grief and caring into the workplace as a massage therapist and carer in a dementia specific unit. Kevin is always with me. I often hear him saying "hang on that's not fair what's happening to that person" and I feel compelled to act. I think Lorraine and Kevin were lucky to have us as we were them. Take care...Hugs back....D ... View more

Check out the website for Oncology Massage Therapists. They (including me) are qualified Massage Therapist who have done further training in Oncology Massage. If you are going to pursue massage, then this is the way to go. I haven't been on this site for quite a while. I was my hubby's carer ... View more

Hi Geoff Read your post to Nat. It has been 2years for me too (28Nov2014). There is a sense of fading. I feel like life has gone back to pre-Kevin. Still miss him and our relationship every day. Can't believe where the 2 years has gone and so much happening without him. Life has forwarded and changed and I guess he is not a physical part of it, but his memory and his thoughts and opinions are. Some things are happening now that did not exist in his time and I can only assume what he would have thought. For me that is where the fading is noticeable. The 2nd year can be difficult as reality sets in that nothing can be changed only felt and grieved. It was nice to see your post and I have re-read some of the others around that time. Beautiful memories of beautiful people caring. ... View more

Go Melanie!!! Merry Christmas!!! In regard to nutrition, you may want to log onto Quest for Life, Petrea King. There are some good books which deal with the more "natural" mode of healing to complement your lives. Enjoy the now!!! Love Denise ... View more

HI EMILY Yes was quite the creative little stitcher. Am starting to feel the urge again slowly. Spent most of yesterday re arranging my "study" to turn it into an arts and craft room. I painted it yellow sometime ago with lime green trim. Very vibrant and uplifitng. Nice and sunny too (when we get sun in Mel). Have moved my sewing machine, mosaics, knitting and crochet needles in and all packed away neatly for when I am ready. I am moving my study/office into Kevin's office but first have to paint it. We both had our own businesses, hence our own study/offices. I feel quite spoiled having so much room and am ready to accept that I am deserving (like so many other carers) of being a bit spoiled and self indulgent. Will look up that website tho, as I remember how relaxed, albeit sometimes challenged I felt when knitting etc. A great distraction and also an acheivement to see what you have made. I think the ONJ Welness Centre at the Austin have an Art Therapy program which is different from just sitting down and BEING arty and crafty. Again, it is a feeling of moving on without Kevin and things he is not here to enjoy with me, tho I know he is with me in a different way. Lots of love and all the best for the Christmas Season and a calm, Peaceful New Year ....Denise ... View more

Congratulations Superman!!!!! Keep up the great work...Fatigue is a normal part of chemo so pace yourself. Have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! and enjoy and relish youself and loved ones. ... View more

HI Storm, Hope you are doing ok. The first anniversary has come and gone. The actual day wasn't too bad I had lunch with Kevin's sister and got through the day ok. I posted a tribute on my FB page and in the Herald Sun which I quite enjoyed doing. I found some lovely versus from a book called "Safe Passage" and sent his mum some beautiful flowers. The day after I didn't do so well, with lots of tears and yearning today, just like back then one year ago. Was a difficult day today yet have got through it. Here I go again.Just another hurdle. Like you, I am not missing the "irritations" I only see our relationship as beautiful and whatever irritations would have been dealt with. I have had a number of dreams too. We might be in for it someday. Lots of love....Denise ... View more

Thank you so much Amanda for remembering. It helps knowing that other people out there are thinking of me. I hope things are improving a bit for you. The anniversary date 28Nov wasn't too bad. It slowly caught up a couple of days later, with lots of tears today. It was like when he first died. Grief and yearning. The road is certainly full of bumps and potholes. All we can do is put on our seatbelts and remain positive that we will one day find our new purpose in life, fuelled by a passion from our love. Again thank you ... View more