Hi Jules2 My mum had throat cancer before her pancreatic cancer and she suffered from a dry throat and found it hard to talk, she sounded like she was drunk and people thought it was funny but she couldnt fix it very much but got relief from a spray made by Difflam. The only way people will understand is if they get cancer in any form themselves which I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy but sometimes it takes something like that to happen for them to "get it". Dont worry about the dickhead at work he isnt worth wasting your energy on just look after No. 1 put all your energy into that. Take care, loz ... View more

Since my diagnosis I have really found out who my "real"friends are. The others I cant be bothered wasteing my time with them I have better things to do and new friends to make. On my side of the family they are very supportive as I lost my Mum, cousin and uncle within 6 weeks of each other in 2011 they treat my no differently and came to visit me in hospital after surgery but my husbands family which is quite a large family I had 2 people come to visit me in hospital and after I got out. They treat me differently now and I feel uncomfortable at family functions. There is another family member with cancer and as hers cancer is terminal and mine was caught in time (i dont mean to sound terrible or like I want attention) but because surgery got mine and not hers I am completely well as if nothing happened. They dont realise we live in fear of its return and body parts dont work like they should etc etc and life is day to day. I am over ignorant people, just hope it doesnt happen to them to find out how to treat other people and be a bit more understanding. ... View more

All the best for the reconstruction, then - Bring it on ... View more

I feel the same Suzie s. I had bowel cancer in May 2012 but after surgery was told that I didnt need the chemo but I feel like I havent done enough and so understand where you are coming from. ... View more

Hi Rubes I am a bit like Silly and havent have chemo but have watched my mum, cousin and sister in law all go through this and sound like you are doing it tough. Hang in their, remember the expression, What doesnt kill you makes you stronger. Sending you good wishes and positive thoughts. Loz x ... View more

Hi Dasha I totally understand the feeling of not having a poo for 7 days at a time and my doctor wont let me have anything över the counter" and told me just to drink prune juice, which I hate but it really works. Sunraysia have 250ml bottles and I drink about half within an hour i can go to the toilet, I know this is horrible but it makes it soft emoung to pass without bleeding or tearing (I had bowel cancer high resection) so I have to be careful. I hope this helps. ... View more

I dont think you are a whinging princess, you just need to be able to say whatever you want to someone and not feel like you have to sugar coat everything you say so you wont offend people that is why I came here because you can do just that. I dont sew or do as much craft these days but I love my garden, and I have just added a veggie patch so I can eat a little better and it also keeps me sane. I hope all goes well for you on the 20th and as Silly says there are many caring people on this site so I hope you can get something from it. All the best. ... View more

Real friends are there through the good AND the bad. I hope your ex friend of 40 years doesnt go through something like you and "needs"a good fiend to talk to. ... View more

Hi am new to all of this but just need somewhere to go to talk with others. I have family support and a few real friends, as I found out who my real ones were when I was diagnosed. They all understand to a point but I just need to talk to others people that have or have survived cancer. ... View more