Hi Smeggle 10 I am also 38 years old and I have a 7 year old daughter. Who unfortunately understands too much. You need to listen to the advice but then listen to your inner self, you know your daughter and everyone has advice to give but do what you think   is best. Your real friends will stand by you and support you. Its amazing who does and who you think will be there but dissappear . My husband was diagnosed 6 years ago and we have been to hell and back with many surgeries, radiation and kemo. We have been told he has about 6 months and I also dont know how I will cope and if thing I feel and think are normal. I married a man fit healthy and full of life whos passion was surfing. Now it pains me to look at him. Anyway I hope i have helped in some small way. ... View more

Hi There's not much sleep happening in our house at night. My husband has been told that his cancer is back after being in remission for about 14 months, but this time it's not operable & chemo is his only option, which will start late January. It's mainly due to the pain but as he may only get to sleep late he is then sleeping to maybe 11.00ish the next day so his bodyclock is all over the place. We are still trying to get his pain relief right. Palliative care visited for the first time last Friday. With help from pal care/gp his medication was altered so we are slowly getting on top of his pain, still a way to go though. take care Linda ... View more

thankyou all so much it is like a hole new has opened up and i dont feel so alone. Mick is still in hospital and it is taking a bit longer to recover but things are slowly turnign around and he has taken a few baby steps which is great. at the moment the anger is gone and frustration is appearing as he just want to come home.  I spoke to the social worker today and we spoke about the pal team which would be good for all of us, especially that they will come to my home.  mick didnt want anything to to with the social worker but today he spoke to him for 10 minutes which is a start and a good one since he thinks that he can do it on our own as he says.  the other small step was towards acceptance he said to me that "you no i wil go yellow". due to the cancer in the liver and i just replied i know that and we will deal with it when and if it happens. this was a hugh step for him. readign through your replies   doesnt make me feel so alone, that there are similar people out there like my family and i dont feel so isolated and the social worker made me feel that way too hopefully Mick will speak to hinm on thurday when i am not around, again thankls heaps for your advice and concerns smeggle ... View more