My wife is being treated for breast cancer and there is no way of faking or pretending the effects of chemo. It is a highly aggressive treatment that plays havoc on the body. It has also sent her into early menopause and presented other side effects. Her treatments were 5 or 6 hours at a time and have left her a tired and weaker version of her normal self. She has however not played the victim through all of this ordeal and has wanted me beside her on this journey. It would be sad if anyone chose to fake this disease and an insult to those who have to fight it. I think you can work out for yourself what is going on. ... View more

Oh you are so correct. People do not get it....my wife is battling a very aggressive type of breast cancer and I, like you, find myself avoiding some situations where there will be conversations about her plight. Some very helpful (not!) comments have been, "my auntie died of breast cancer it was terrible" I have been in a situation where work collegues have suggested that it is the near by radio towers that caused it and they continued on with this conversation in front of me for a few minutes.My personal favourite was a letter from a church group explaining why god does this and the power of Prayer. I am not religeous so why they bothered is beyond me. I have had close friends fall off the radar completely and people feeling it is o'k to discuss the situation in front of my children. I am so sorry for your loss and do empathise with you.....People really don't get it. ... View more

Hi Catherine and Skymirel, Thankyou for your thoughts and I am sorry you find yourself in the place you are at the moment. This stuff just comes manically out of the blue and sends you into shock. It's ok though because you do come out of the shock phase and into some sort of crazy routine. Don't get me wrong there are times when it is emotionally exhausting but I look at the quality of care my wife is recieving from her cancer care medical team and all of our fantastic friends (small country town) and it boosts morale. I am still scared shitless of this beast but I have a strong belief that we will eventually be rid of it and in a strange way better for the experience. This has solidified my love for my wife and has put into perspective what is really important in life. Good luck and keep moving forward. JC ... View more

Thanks for your comments...I read your post and wow your year has been pretty crappy too. No one hear is a wimp, we are all emotionally exhausted and pushing on the best we can....good luck with your situation and thanks again for your comments. ... View more