Hi there, Sorry to hear about the news with your mum. My name is John and about a month ago - my Dad was diagnosed with an aggressive Prostate Cancer that looks to have spread to his bones. It was a funny old time come to think of it - my Dad was hobbling around with saw legs, then a sore bum cheek bone... then sore this, sore that... He went to the doctors and test after test couldnt really find anything... so we didn't really worry to much. He's 62 so we thought it was old age, perhaps nerve issues... and so on. Anyway... finally, after some time, I remember getting the phone call (txt msg actually...) "You're dad's in the hospital, found some swollen lymph nodes"... and really, from their my heart sunk. Its been a ride, really only a month - of tests, scans and the whole works. It pains me to share with you - that for my dad, the doctors have told him that he might have 12 months to 5 years... depending if everything works in his favor. But you know what... he might not even have that. In fact, none of us might have that. After learning about my Dad, I've really tried to think and respect life a literally differently. Sure, we get up, go to work, stuck in traffic, answer emails, play with the kids - cook tea, clean the dishes... sure, it can sometimes fell a bit same old, same old. But life isn't really about that - because one minute our lives were normal, the next minute we were faced with Cancer that will take the life of my Dad. He is your typical Dad and a huge part of our lives. My life, my sisters, my mums... and his grandchildren. I'll admit - I have moments where I feel really glum. But I'm also not afraid to admit that I have moments where I'm almost at terms with it. Sure - I've cried, been angry, dissapointed, panicky... but please know that we all have different emotions and when they come, we need to let them out not bottle them. Right now - you're gob smacked your mum has cancer. But if you focus on the positives and focus on each and every day... your mind will somehow come to terms with whats going on. I won't lie... No one will ever give you peace of mind. When we get these serious diagnosis - our brains frantically try and flick the switch to make everything fine again... but the truth is, you can't always find that peace. So you need to work with it... focus on the good things and be positive. Remember that life is a journey that for all of us, has an end point. Being scared about the unknown is perfectly normal... but don't forget, we ALL take this journey. I hope everything works out for your mum and please know that many of us here are here to help and listen. Regards ... View more

I am very glad your Mum got through surgery but so sorry about the complications and subsequent pain. I do hope she is given adequate pain meds and if not, do keep asking. I did have a lot for the first week while in hospital and was able to reduce them before leaving at 11 days. I used Xylocaine Viscous after radiotherapy to numb my mouth, not only to allow for relatively comfortable eating but also for general relief at any time. After swirling/holding in the mouth for a short while, it can then be safely swallowed, numbing the throat on the way down as well. Please ask her docs for any options. Unless you point out strongly the need for relief, it can be easily overlooked. Prayers for good blessings as needed, (((hugs))) to you and your Mum, Pamela. ... View more

well my mom was diagnosed on thursday breast cancer we dont know if it has spread till monday. my warm thoughts for you..im only new to this journey and can only imagine how terrible further down the track it will get. just remember i dont think anyone who goes through this doesnt struggle with seeing their loved one go through it. especially your mom. ... View more