that is so true, there is some hope to find a new 'normal' but i am 3 years on and i dont think i will ever feel comfortable in my own life anymore because it is a matter of compromising to a new 'normal'. i am completeing my masters degree and getting on with things but everyday is a struggle to be happy. i think i lost most of my friends long ago, maybe cancer changed me...who knows...but i am still trying to find the new 'normal'. ... View more

Bridie, you will look back on the last year and have so many horrible memories of the sickness and its toll on your step-dad and family, but in time, you will have the most meaningful memories you will cling to forever. i was holding my dad's hand when he died 3 years ago when i was 23 and he was only 54. it would have been his birthday yeasterday. i still think of him every day and wish i could have done something more for him. i miss him so so so much that i still ache, but i also have so many good memories to cling to. i try to think of the important things that he told me and how much he loved me. you will go through your own journey but i hope you are able to come to a place where the good memories are at the forefront and not the bad ones. ... View more