I asked my surgeon yesterday about nipple preservation and skin sparing for reconstructive surgery and he told me that no that was not an option as the both could contain cancer cells ... View more

Ok last week was an absolutely emotional nightmare. This week I have no more tears. I'm finding that I'm consoling family and friends. Is this normal? Tomorrow I see the surgeon to discuss the CT scan and bone scan that I had done 3 days ago. Hubby is away tonight and I'm scared!! Do you ever get over being scared? ... View more

I did it with the help of my Husband. We had our sons over for morning tea this morning and told them everything. The son that I was particularly concerned for was the one who first hugged me and cried on my shoulder. A lot of questions were asked and a lot of support offered. I know that the information hasn't sunk in completely for them yet but am hoping that they feel comfortable enough to keep contacting me and express any feelings that they have. Thankyou for your support. Tomorrow I am visiting my parents and discussing this with them. This is also going to be difficult as they are both in their late 70's with some health issues. I am one of 10 children and none of us have had any real health issues so this is going to be a bit of a shock for Mum and Dad. Thanks all Louise ... View more

Thankyou kj Thank God I have a very supportive husband of 29 years who is going to help me discuss this with my boys. At the moment as soon as I start mentioning cancer I just start sobbing and this is not what I want to do in front of my sons. I want to tell them that my destination has just taken a little detour but will be back on the path I want when I am ready Louise ... View more

Thanks Emily I'm really trying to have my sons come visit on Saturday but it is difficult as they all work different shift work. None of my sons are married but they are all in long term relationships 2+ years. I love and respect their partners. Should I also inform them at the same time? I'm hoping that my sons and their partners can lean on each other for support. No my sons do not know that I have visited a doctor. I have never been sick before and have never had to discuss my health with them. I will definitely take you up on your offer to post how it went. My sons are all very different. One of them is very reluctant to show any emotions other than strength and I am particularly worried that he will stay away from me because he can't fix the situation. Thank you for your response Louise ... View more