Hi, Lovelost, it sounds like you are in a difficult place right now. You have a long list of responsibilities and they sound like insurmountable obstacles: but are they? The big mortgage - could you down-size? And why are the adult children a responsibility? Look closely at the list of things you feel are vital and maybe re-think the big picture. I have a 39 year old son who has incurable renal cell carcinoma, and I would give anything to watch him tinkering with projects and enjoying life again. His father and grandparents are all passed on. There won't be any children or devoted partner for him, no nice super buffer or savings fund. Just me and some loved ones. You may be right about your partner's attitude of course. But cancer has a long shadow and you have to keep loving the person who is in that shadow. Hope you can sort it all out, my best wishes to you. ... View more

Just wanted to say thank you for being bold enough share your experience with us. I know it takes a lot of courage to air out parts of your life like that, and I am greateful that you did. Like several people haev already pointed out, it is an issue that many people might tackle, but one that does not get nearly as much attention as it deserves. I can't begin to imagine the complexities of navigating this, but I wish you nothing but the best and I hope you continue to play a role in each others lives in some way or form.  ... View more