Hi...my partner is 71 and  has had lymphoma of the brain he was diagnosed Nov 2016..he has had 7 lots of chemo and 13 lots of radiation..it has  been 4 months since he finished his chemo and the doctors say he is all clear..but he is always tired..no energy. .just wants to sleep or watch Tv...has just given up on life..never wants to go anywere..i dont know what to do...i work full time but am finished by lunch time..so im home to give my partner his lunch although if im late he will heat himself some soup.. (he also makes his own breakfast ...toast and a cup of tea ..as im at work by 4 am)  Were things different for you and your partner.. ... View more

Hey Melissa   I think you hit the nail on the head, in describing the kind of generalised anxiety that (I assume) everyone who's gone through cancer must suffer.   I myself have just gone through treatment, and I don't know if the treatment's been successful and won't find out until 21 March.   If it wasn't successful, I actually may be running short on options.   If it WAS successful, I still have to approach life with a new type of weather in my barometer, the cloudy old "Cancer recurrence worry"   It is like grief, I think .. especially if you have young children.  I honestly am not distressed so much about end of life myself, but the idea that my three young children (one of whom is autistic and really needs me) would be subjected to the grief of losing their father so young (ages 4-7)   Fingers crossed my cancer is defeated, but you have to approach it as a battle won, not the war, that's my opinion.   I think the only option is to work on your body's immune response, and living a maximally healthy life, and filling it with as much love, joy and happiness for yourself and the people you care about as you possibly can.   How do we defy cancer ?  We love, love is the opposite of cancer. ... View more

Hi Hobie,   I was diagnosed with a Grade 2 Astrocytoma last year when my second child was 3 months old. I was absolutely terrified. After a biopsy and craniotomy, the tumour was removed and has not returned. I still feel afraid that I won't be there for my children as they grow (now nearly 2 and 7) but we can only stay in the present. I think my husband would definitely have some idea how you are feeling!   I hope your husband continues to do well and I wish you all the best.   Melissa ... View more