April 2020
There so much a cancer patient is terrified of. Tests surgery’s and being immunocompromised. Then there is C19. Its bad enough that u have the o my god disease without other complications. We hear in the news of many oncology patients that have passed by C19. I am fairly sure it worries me being a widowed cancer career. But take heart in the fact that you are not alone on what your future looks like. I hope for all your sakes you come out the other side of this world catastrophe. Being without my handsome man has me thinking of your struggles and how you are coping in these trying times. I hope your outcomes are so much better then my handsome man. God bless.
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February 2020
so that was then and this is now. Immunotherapy didn’t work. We lost our house our future plans and now we have lost him. He passed on the 9 th Jan. he was semi conscious for 10 days on a pain pump infuser. He said he would give it a thumping and he did. Now I’m classified as homeless. I have no lease and no mortgage. I stay with my baby girl my youngest daughter. I have 3 children and they all want me to live with them. I can’t cut myself in 3 so I’m torn. They live all over Hamilton Heywood and Tatura. So were do I go.
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February 2020
Stay strong. Until you know what your dealing with ...as in treatment. Don’t think the worst and spend as much time together making memories you both can share after her treatment.xx
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February 2020
Tracey2 , my husband got his bladder out. Last year and he adapted quite well. The thing to remember is check your bag. You get so used to not going to the bathroom for a wee that accidents do happen. Also always have a clean set of clothes. It’s like having a overnight bag everywhere you go. Best of luck.😘
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February 2020
2 Kudos
it was month 1 for me yesterday. I suffer severe depression and bi polar. Besides dealing with my handsome man checking out, I have to try and stay focast and keep that in check as 3 years ago mum passed cancer also.My BP took over, got a 10 thousand dollar credit card.....my handsome man was not very happy. I have good support from a councillor and my g.p. My children. They say it takes time for what, I have a photo on the wall I talk to of my husband it helps but I get were your saying you miss your partner it’s the habits that annoyed you, the more inter-mite stuff. I made a garden out back for mum and now hubby,. It’s good therapy and I must admit it is a feeling of having him close. Maybe think of something that you could Nurture in your partners memory. Good luck stay positive.😘
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February 2020
3 Kudos
So it’s been one month since My usband died. My handsome man. Last week I wasn’t feeling very unwell. Found out after my daughter made me go to hospital just to check it wasn’t something serious, I had a mini stroke. spend 2 days in hospital and now feel that maybe Russell my husband was telling me to slow down.To look after me. He had said quite a lot while looking after him,” You need to make time and look after yourself” I thought if I just kept going I could have him here longer. None of his cancer journey makes sense. Surgery was to give him years. 8 mths latter broken pelvis from the cancer eating through excruciating pain. Then he was gone. My heart hurts. My brain doesn’t make sense of it. My children just as confused. My grandchildren missing pa.
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October 2019
2 Kudos
My husband was diagnosed stage 2 in the bladder cancer 7 th March ,2 days after he turned 65. Had a radical cystectomy with an I’ll conduit. We are now in October and he is advanced stage 4 bladder cancer secondary bone cancer. The cancer broke his pelvis. He had 5 sessions of radiotherapy. He has gone from 94 kgs to 66. He has had one and a half rounds of chemo and hopes to start immunotherapy next week. He has had a hard slog and still says he will beat this. There is no cure for bone cancer and at the moment his pain meds are high but will be reduced as radiation does it’s job and so to immunotherapy. Hope is all we have and I hope your journey is easier then his. Everybody has a different journey and though it seems helpless at times positivity is what gets us through. Never think the worst and make everyday count.best of luck.
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