Hi everyone, so just to catch you up my dad has Bowel cancer that has spread to his liver. He has had two rounds of chemo but had to stop after getting an infection and being in hospital for a week and a half. He is home now and the doctor was wanting him to get his appetite, strength, more weight back up before doing another round. So he has been doing that. Now just recently the doctor has said that she doesn’t want to do anymore chemo on him as  his body won’t handle it and that he will go back in hospital and not come out as it will put to much strain on his body. Also he has small cell rectosigmoid metastasiss which you only get in the lungs but it started in my dad’s bowel/liver which is rare. My dad’s liver is failing but all his other organs are fine, his bloods are fine aswell and the tumour in his Bowel hasn’t grown. I need help because I want a second opinion but I dont know who to talk to about all this. There has to be some kind of treatment my dad can have. There has to be other options, there has to be something!!!! Please help me!! ... View more

Hi everyone, my dad has just recently been diagnosed with Bowel Cancer not sure what stage but it has spread to the Liver so I’m guessing stage 4? Little background information, my dad, who is in his 60’s, has never been sick in his life ( apart from the usual like colds etc) hasn’t been to the hospital or doctors since he was a young boy. He’s always been healthy and fit, so it definitely came as a shock that this has happened to him. Though I did find out recently that his mum died from Bowel Cancer. He has done his tests and is going to start Chemo the first week of the new year. The doctors have said that they want to get rid of the cancer in the liver ( that’s the only place it has spread) and then do surgery for the tumour in his bowels as it is not causing any obstructions. He will be having chemo at the hospital and tablets taken at home. So far he still has his appetite and is doing things around the house (he recently fully retired) but does tend to have little naps more often.  I am so scared, I feel like I can’t breathe properly sometimes  ( I am diagnosed with anxiety and depression). I’m very close with my dad and to think that he could pass away from this scares me. I am definitely hopeful and will be right by his side through everything. It’s just so unfair! I would take this from him if I could! I have two older sisters and they aren’t handling the news very well, also my mum acts like she is ok but I know she isn’t. I’m the strong one and I’m the type that puts other people first and make sure they are ok, take on their worries and stress. I don’t like to cry infront of my family about this so I sometimes cry at night in my bed.  Anyway I’m scared to see my dad go through this and how it will affect him and what the outcome will be. A couple of years ago my nan was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer and it was terminal. (I was also very close with her) I had to see my beautiful nan go from her healthy usual self to very quickly deteriorating to the point she couldn’t talk, just made noises, very thin and bedridden. ( She moved into our house when she became ill so I saw it all) and then the day before she passed we put her into pall care and the next day she was gone before we could get there. Also saw my grandpa from my dads side pass away (not cancer). I just don’t want to go through that again. I am so hopeful tho! But part of me is preparing myself for the worst, I just can’t help it. My dad is a strong person and I know he will fight this battle with everything his got and I and my family will be by his side!  Ps. Sorry for the long post! Also wanting to read other peoples experiences and how they coped with it.  Much love x  ... View more