October 2020
1 Kudo
Hi, I just want to say what a wonderful friend you are already for reaching out and getting support with wanting to support your friend. Yes it is so true i believe everybody is different and only you yourself and others who are suppoting your friend really know what he likes and dislikes. Things change so much in the eyes of the person who is suffering. Maybe talking to them about their favourite football team or sports they like or books they like or liked to read, my partners son used to take my partner out for drives to see his favourite places as he knew he couldn't drive. Best of luck on your journey of support of your friend. Remember yourself not to take to much to heart if they don't want to talk or do things, they are suffering. Just be empethetic and listen or just be present if you can.
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October 2020
2 Kudos
Sch. I am so sad to read your story about your father passing away with bowel cancer at 52yrs of age and now you have the same thing happening to you. I can't begin to Imagine how you must be feeling right now. Especially after just loosing my beautiful partner to pancreatic cancer. I am just lost for words. Thoughts of love and peace for you.
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October 2020
2 Kudos
I am so sorry to hear of your grief with the passing of you husband and your children's father. I hear you about the feeling lost indeed. I was with my beautiful partner Stephen for 11 years. He has been my whole life along with my 4 children and his 3 children and my 8 grandchildren. It has been extremely hard, I have been riding the rollercoaster of up and down emotions. I haven't moved anything of his at all still in place just as if he is still here with me. My eldest daughter has been Staying with me and my sister lives in a contained living room down stairs, but i still feel alone, feeling very surreal, i haven't been in our car since before he went into pallitive care. Stephen passed away on the 17th of october. Still so soon. It is such a very difficult time to go through. Thinking of you.
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October 2020
Wow hearing things from the other side. My beautiful partner just recently passed away with pancreatic cancer sadly. Hearing you speak about things your slowly not being able to do is a reminder of what i saw in my beautiful man. I understand fully what you are talking about, I hear you. Feeling for you.
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October 2020
2 Kudos
My beautiful partner Stephen passed away due to pancreatic on the 17th of October at 5pm. It has been extremely hard for me. I have only left the house three times since his passing, to go to see the funeral directors, to go to a special place and then to his memorial and scattering of his ashes. I haven't left the house since his memorial. I am finding it very hard and I haven't driven our car since his passing.
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July 2020
1 Kudo
HI Sarah, Sure does suck indeed. My husband Stephen did start Chemo therapy yes. Sadly though he only had two rounds of it and got terrible sick. Stephen then ended up in pallitive care for a few weeks and that was hard for him. Stephen is at home now, not able to continue with Chemo therapy as it wasn't working for him, we are blessed to spend time with him at home until he has to inevitably has to go back to pallitive care ward. Blessings to you and your friends and family.
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July 2020
3 Kudos
Good morning everyone. Thank you kate for the tag in how are you going? Well things have changed a lot for my partner Stephen. He went through two rounds of chemo but the third round he got too sick it was a very aggressive round of chemo therapy apparently one of the strongest. During the pancreatic cancer chemo cancer treatment he ended up with a blocked bowel, ended up in hospital and had a tube put through his nose to his stomach which drained his stomach. Went from eating solid food to eating broth. Stephen then ended up over in pallitive care at Wauchope hospital, a lovely place to go and he was happy there with the care of a wonderful team of drs and nurses and everone else who works there. They are all such a wonderful and careing team. During his short stay a couple of weeks, Stephen had his draining tube removed, slowly ended up back on solid foods and now is back home again. It has been so good to have him home again. We have last week recieved a visit from the the pallitive care home help team and now have a wheel chair for him. He is so happy being home. We took him for a trip a to one of his favourite places on saturday, South West Rocks, Smokey Cape Lighthouse. It was amazing just to be able to get Stephen out and about so good he was very tired but really enjoyed it making more memories with his family, his only sibling, his sister Sue and his three wonderful children. His son also took him the day he got his wheelchair to bunnings another of his favourite places. Stephen is very tired these days at the moment and it's a day by day thing now.
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July 2020
3 Kudos
@Budgie Wow how amazing that must have felt for you doing this with your own coffin and such a wonderful idea of your husband. My husband has made his will and all of that business. His three children will be taking care of all the funeral stuff he says in a lovinly way it gives them all a job to do. He has them all doing different jobs. You are an amazingly strong person Budjie.
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July 2020
2 Kudos
@Sarah11 I am so sorry to hear your news is worsening and so dramaticly. Your are a very strong person indeed. My love and thoughts for you all. Stay strong. I really can't imagine what you are going through right now. Not knowing what expect with my partner Stephen starting chemo this week.
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June 2020
Hi Lyall, Thank you so much for you very kind comment. So sorry to hear about your pancreatic cancer. Hope this post finds you in not a too bad state. How are you and your husband copeing now?
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