Graham, Firstly - it sucks! Take it one day at a time. I hope you are not suffering too much and can manage to still do some of the things rest of us take for granted. My friend survived an additional 6 months despite doctors diagnosis -(she died in May this year). She spent Christmas with her family, walked (very slowly, almost breathlessly) along the beach and had many visits from family and friends. She managed to receive most of her care & medication from home (despite bouts in hospital). Please make the time to do the things you enjoy while you can - eg fishing, watch, horse and car racing. You might also want to think about a scrap book with images or video. Some people don't get the chance to prepare for death (its awful and morbid I know, but I'd be lying if I said the thought never crossed my mind). Now I see each day as a celebration of life. I hope and pray, it is not your time. ... View more

I can't help you with your questions, I am 'the partner' of a cancer sufferer (don't feel like I am a carer just yet). I just wanted to say I hope that you can find some answers here and, if nothing else, that you feel the caring and warmth of others to take away the sense of isolation that can be overwhelming. Best wishes to you, take one day at a time. Kind regards, Mrs Elton. ... View more