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Hi John, It has been a while since I posted here, I'm feeling a bit reluctant to share as I feel that I will probably be too much of a 'downer' for others at the moment. The days are getting harder with the reality and permanency of life without Greg. Little things act as triggers and the overwhelming sense of sadness descends like a cloud enveloping a mountain. The moments of sunshine through the cloud are rarer than I would like. I did just type a lengthy response, but somehow a 'glitch' in the system meant I 'lost' the message and entire website, and I don't have the energy to type it all again.........perhaps it was a sign that I should shorten my reply! Anyway, it is late and I am feeling very drained so until next time.....thanks for thinking of us....it does help. Jill ... View more

Hi DJ, In a couple of hours time it will be 6 weeks since Greg died. I have definitely noticed the phone calls/emails etc dropping off over the last couple of weeks. I have done the group email thing but like you say, the energy levels are so low and I feel like I am asking for help all the time. It's just getting harder. Thanks for the hugs! Jill ... View more

Hi Margaret, I live in WA and I have no idea what happens in other states of Australia but can tell you with confidence that there is a fee of $44 to obtain a death certificate in WA. In normal circumstances where a funeral director is involved, the funeral director would 'register' the death and get the next of kin to complete the 'application' for the certificate and I imagine it would just seem like another piece of paperwork that is signed. The fee would get added to the other expenses and therefore would not be as 'obvious' amongst the overall costs. Our situation was different as Greg had donated his body to the University of WA's School of Anatomy for medical research. As a result the Uni 'registered' the death but they don't process any application for the Death Certificate, hence why I had to do it. I am looking forward to some diamond days, cos most of them feel like stone right now. I hope that your 'diamond' days are coming more regularly, like you say, one day/one hour at a time. Jill ... View more

Dear Jewel, I hear your pain. I wish I could lessen it for you, that isn't possible. Thinking of you, Jill ... View more

Hi Julie, Special request - Next time put the bit about the coffee at the top of the post please!!!!! Only joking......it was really good for me to be able to understand (using that very loosely of course) what your journey has been. Thank you for sharing. Over the past 8 months or so I have read many of your blogs and replies to myself and others without fully knowing your personal story. You have always given so much to so many on this site and I'm sure you do that in the 'real' world too! You are one special lady Julie. I am grateful for your generosity of spirit. Here's to the next 12 months, may it be a smoother ride than the last. kindest regards, Jill ... View more

Dear Willow, I just typed a reply and it seems to have disappeared into the world of cyber space..........oh well...........we'll start again! I am so sorry that you have been placed in such a difficult position and made to feel so low. I wish that things were different for you and that I had some words of advice, sadly I don't. Just be kind to yourself, know that we your cyber friends are here waiting for whenever you need to vent/share/whatever the case may be. I hope that you get a restful night tonight and that tomorrow will bring you renewed energy, strength and clarity to think through your options. Cyber hugs, Jill ... View more

Hi Samex, Thanks for responding, I know this subject is pretty confronting. I hear what you are saying about 'reminding' people, it's just really hard to ask, I feel like I would be asking all the time......these last few days have been really tough. I did mention to 3 mums on Friday that I was going in to apply/receive the death certificate, 2 couldn't run away fast enough and the third did offer to come with me, but she is the one I knew the least and I just couldn't take her with me. ... View more

John, Thank you for responding. Each day/week is getting harder than the last, it has been four weeks today since Greg passed. Other people seem to be getting on with their lives (as I knew they would) but in a sense I need them more now than I did before. The adrenalin I was surviving on has run dry. I will try to 'just breathe'. Jill ... View more