6 reasons I love this site

[Deb1960]

1. It is open 24/7, no appointments necessary. 2. It never says, sorry our time it up for today, esp when I have just got onto the subject that's really bugging me. 3. It does not have eyes, never gives you any "looks" if you have not had the look yet it will happen. 4. The people from Cancer Connections (staff) I have spoken with so far have been the nicest, most open to helping people you can wish for at this time in your life. 5. The more I read other peoples thoughts & stories the more I know I am normal, this is what really happens in our heads and lives. 6. It does not have a meeting ever Thursday to discuss you, nothing I say or do with any member of my cancer care team is private but they can sure change the facts, the I can't sleep because of the night sweats was turned into I can't sleep from worrying about dying in 2 easy steps and anti depressants offer as a solution. What the hell???

[SILLY]

Well said!

[Braveb]

Agreed!

[oldhippy]

Agreed - its a place where you dont have to be "nice" to all those kind people around you who are being insanely optimistic. Time out to rant and rave, howl at the moon, wonder what the heck this pill is for.... Andrew the oldhippy.

[SILLY]

I don't know how I managed to repeat myself so many times.Maybe I kept pushing the submit button because it was not doing its job fast enough.

[Deb1960]

Chemo brain, always blame the chemo, I do......lol

[oldhippy]

Came back to read this one again Silly - thank you for posting. I guess point 5, the "I am normal, others feel this too" is kinda nice - its a way of centering ourselves sometimes - at least it is for me. Andrew

[debstar]

hi andrew, my name is Deb, my darling fiance has cancer. we are in day 8 of treatment with radiation. when i read this it really struck a nerve with me, i am so over the insanely optimistic people who keep saying.. oh he looks great, you would never know he has cancer.. and that eternal.. she'll be rite mate, he will be fine.. omg i get so sick of trying to be positive, .. i am very positive but occasionally like tonight, (my son is moving out of home to darwin and my eldest has moved away 2 weeks ago for work so excuse me for feeling a little sad..) but when i say to people im having a bit of a down day, they always say.. öh you have to stay positive, you cant let it get you down.. like i didn't know that already and like i said i am very positive but... sheesh am i not allowed to occasionally be peeved and upset that this beautiful man whom i love more than life itself has this dreaded disease.. i wish with every breath i take that it was different, and occasionally yes it gets to me, but most times im ok.. sorry andrew.. phew got a bit passionate about that hey lol.. and i just wanted to know has any one else out there had sympathy pains ... i feel every thing terry is going through and i know when he is not feeling well.. like tonight i have such a tight sore throat, and he is feeling very tired and worn out with a bi of a tight throat.. its weird .. like we are the same person feeling the same pain, we even get matching headaches.. even when we are not together i know if he is sick, cause i feel it.. any way enough raving from me.. hope you are well andrew, and thanks for the licence to rant and rave and howl at the moon .. i may have taken a few liberties but hey, you get that, right??? take care from Debstar and Terry ..

[exhausted]

Very well said especially the normal bit. This is not a club you would want to join but its wonderful if you need to.

[Jules_68]

Well said and more......Jules

[VLASTA]

Hm, well I don't need to add anything.... just keep saying, yes that's it... it's happening to me to me too... that's right, can't be positive enough....thank you for saying my thoughts aloud....