advice needed- is what im feeling normal

[Star]

i dont know if what im feeling is normal grieving emotions or am I trying to be told something. Mum has now been moved into a hospice. it all happened so quickly. they spoke about it a few days ago and now shes in there. mum says its better as she is taking the burden off me. The nurses and doctors say see it as a gift- you now have your mum back and you can be daughter. i dont know, one moment i feel ok about it then one moment i feel she should be here in our house with me looking after her like it has been for the past few months. yes it was stressful at times but maybe it wouldnt be that bad. it is killing me this constant thought im having, did we make the right choice...or should she be with me. maybe my thoughts are selfish. has any one else had these feelings and what do they mean?

[SILLY]

Try not to stress over it . In my opinion if you made that choice then it is the right one .

[jan52]

No choice is the wrong choice in my opinion. You have made your choice in love, you mum knows that, be at peace knowing she is getting the best of care. I made the decision to keep my husband at home but I can tell you that I was so very close at times to putting in a hospice. The stress of caring for your loved ones at home is extreme so please don't be hard on yourself, we all have feelings of 'am I doing the right thing?' 'could I have done something more, something different?'. You are not alone and what you are feeling is completely normal Hugs, Jan