dont know how to feel

[dazza2010]

my terminally ill wife tells me today that she wants to give up the fight against her cancer. She tells me the reason for this is not only because of the medication and her constantly sleeping but due to the fact that i don't like her ex partners family and their causing trouble for us.She feels like she is stuck in the middle. Now I feel like I am the cause of my wife wanting to give up and I know that will be thrown in my face by her ex partners family. I just feel like taking my son with me and leaving them all to deal with it. Don't know what to do anymore.

[tatsoi]

it sounds like an emotional time for you and your wife and your family. some times people say things they don't mean in moments of frustration. Find a good listener and talk about what's going on for you. (this forum is good for that too) please be kind to yourself. :)

[tatsoi]

it sounds like an emotional time for you and your wife and your family. some times people say things they don't mean in moments of frustration. Find a good listener and talk about what's going on for you. (this forum is good for that too) please be kind to yourself. :)

[little_stitcher]

What a tough situation. I'd like to echo everything that Tatsoi has said. Warm thoughts for you all. Emily

[SILLY]

You certainly don't need that and nor does your wife . May I suggest that you approach your gp who can arrange counselling for yourself . Medicare fund this for anyone needing it and there would be no out -of - pocket expense if you can find a counsellor who is willing to bulk bill . Your wife may be able to get help from the Cancer Council . The social worker at a hospital may be able to help . I hope you don't feel I'm suggesting something that would add another difficulty in your lives . I just think it may help to have someone outside the family with whom you can talk . I also understand if neither of you want to do this . Families are so complicated !

[Pamela]

Hi Dazza I'm so sorry your so difficult time is compounded by other family members. Feelings are very fickle things that can change so easily. You and your wife both have strong feelings to deal with just now. It can be hard to put feelings aside and deal with facts or situations instead, but I do think it will help overall. What your wife wants is the important thing. I suggest that is a peaceful atmosphere among the whole extended family. Your wife's ex-partner is 'ex' for a reason. The only important people are your immediate family. The 'ex' family is upsetting your wife who needs only loving people surrounding her at this time. Tell the 'ex' family what they are doing to your wife and that the trouble they are causing is making your wife give up. Don't take their negativeness on your shoulders - you have enough to cope with already. And don't make any decisions that you may later regret. Prayers of wisdom and strength to you, Pamela 🙂