January 2013
Hi, its been awhile since i have posted a blog here. After a 6 month battle with cancer my wife passed away on the 3rd November 2012. I have moved in with my parents for awhile for added help with my 7yr old son.Now my son is relatively settled and enrolled in a new school, I have been able to start focusing on myself.It is becoming more and more obvious to myself that I am not coping with the loss of my wife.I have made an appointment with the doctor to get a care plan done so i can hopefully get to see a counsellor to help me through. I find myself lately crying at a drop of a hat and the slightest thing can set me off too.
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August 2012
my terminally ill wife tells me today that she wants to give up the fight against her cancer. She tells me the reason for this is not only because of the medication and her constantly sleeping but due to the fact that i don't like her ex partners family and their causing trouble for us.She feels like she is stuck in the middle. Now I feel like I am the cause of my wife wanting to give up and I know that will be thrown in my face by her ex partners family. I just feel like taking my son with me and leaving them all to deal with it. Don't know what to do anymore.
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July 2012
just lately i have become more and more angry, also i am confused about what to do about it.My wife has terminal cancer and her bone involvement is very advanced. My wife is looking forward to our holiday in January and so are the kids. Whilst talking to my wifes surgeon last week i mentioned the fact that my wife was worried that she wasn't going to see this christmas, the surgeon then lowered her head slightly and shook her head. When my wife came back into the room, the surgeon told my wife to look forward to the January holiday.
I don't want my wife to give up fighting,so i don't want to say anything to her but she keeps asking me whats wrong and whats bothering me...What can I do, what can I say?
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June 2012
Thanks Wombat4, I know telling her won't help either of us, that's the most frustrating part. It might be just her way of coping and holding onto some small amount of hope.
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June 2012
Thanks for your advice Stacey, I had thought of not saying anything to her because it could be her way of holding on to some hope.
At this stage, I haven't had a chance to have anytime to myself since my wife was diagnosed which has been over about 6 weeks now.
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June 2012
Lately I have been getting more and more frustrated, my wife keeps telling people that the doctors are going to operate to take out her ovaries when her lung function improves, also the tumor in her head if that grows.The fact that the cancer is in her lung, head and bones and we have been told its terminal and they are only looking at controlling the pain with medication. Part of me wants to tell her that the surgery isn't going to happen, they did tell her that her health is not good enough to undergo the operations but on the other hand, I don't want to take away that hope either. Don't know what to do, its driving me crazy and stressing me.
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May 2012
thank you Tina for your words of support and advice, it is greatly appreciated.
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May 2012
i'm not coping that well, I'm trying to be strong for my kids,but i feel like everything is getting on top of me. I gave up my job to care for my wife, my mum has stayed with us for awhile also to help. My teenage step daughter has been doing it tough and told me today that i should be doing more for my wife so my mum doesnt need to help out. I tried explaining to her that i need help because I'm having alot of trouble dealing with the fact my wifes cancer is terminal and I'm facing the fact of raising the 3kids on my own. now not only do i feel scared about the future but i feel guilty because the kids feel that i should be doing more for their mum.
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May 2012
thank you for your message Wombat4,I am trying to be strong not only for my wife but for our 3 kids. It's hit me really hard today, guess it finally hit home that all the future plans that we had have pretty much gone and life has been reduced to a day by day existance. We have to treasure each day and make the most of the time we have left.
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