Hi Dazza I'm so sorry your so difficult time is compounded by other family members. Feelings are very fickle things that can change so easily. You and your wife both have strong feelings to deal with just now. It can be hard to put feelings aside and deal with facts or situations instead, but I do think it will help overall. What your wife wants is the important thing. I suggest that is a peaceful atmosphere among the whole extended family. Your wife's ex-partner is 'ex' for a reason. The only important people are your immediate family. The 'ex' family is upsetting your wife who needs only loving people surrounding her at this time. Tell the 'ex' family what they are doing to your wife and that the trouble they are causing is making your wife give up. Don't take their negativeness on your shoulders - you have enough to cope with already. And don't make any decisions that you may later regret. Prayers of wisdom and strength to you, Pamela :-) ... View more

Hi Wombat, It sounds to me that you and the family aren't looking forward to Christmas and you are getting into a panic about it. It's a terrible thing that your family are going through. I feel that you don't want to face Christmas when the time comes as it would be a very sad day for all of you. I suggest to have christmas with a lot of people when the time comes as then you will feel happy and the day will just pass for you all. I feel for you too. Glenys xx each to the whole family ... View more

Hi Dazza My thoughts are that your dear wife is fully aware of her situation. Although this may be her way of coping with it herself, I suggest that she may be doing this to help those who love and care about her, some of whom may know the truth, some maybe not. She may well be stating the truth: that if by some miracle she did improve, that doctors would operate. She would also be fully aware that without improvement, there will be no further surgery. It is important that you somehow find a way to have some time for yourself. Can family or friends help out to give you a day (or half a day) to do some favourite pastime? I do wish you inner strength and a sense of peace beyond the craziness that cancer causes. Enjoy daily moments and try not to let frustration and fear of the future take these away from you both. ... View more

HI Dazza,Just wanted to check in and find out if you are okay and remind you there are people on this site who care,dont be afraid to reach out and use the great community that is here it can help immensely X ... View more

I agree,love your wife as much as you can.I really feel for you and your children,take each day at a time or each moment and treasure them.Having the support from palliative care will hopefully give you the 'special' time with her. Gentle 'virtual' hugs coming your way. Dotty. ... View more

I can only imagine how difficult it must be for you all. It is especially hard when children are involved . They need to know what is going on but only given what they can handle. Counsellors may be able to assist you with this . I hope you get support from others ,family ,friends and here. I know people here will help . ... View more