wow,Clo. Read through all the information you can handle in the various sections of the forums. There are loads and loads of bits and pieces to help, that people have posted along their own journeys. Also you can never go past the Cancer Council Website or helpline. There is always someone or something to help you in whatever you come up against.
As a carer finding time for yourself is just as important as caring for your Mum so make this a part of the things you NEED to do not would LIKE to do. And visit us all here as often as yo need to. There is always someone who is feeling or has felt as you feel at any given time and you will be surprised how much that helps sometimes.
Sounds like you have a lot on your plate!! Hope we can all help you along the way :-)
Alana