November 2013
Hi again. One last thing I can say is be there for your mum through the night. I know it may be hard with young children. My son/daughter and myself were with dad the afternoon before and my daughter and I spent the whole night with him (only quickly going back home to see her kids-6 and 9 at the time) and were there when he took his last breath. Even though I miss him him so so much I am really thankful that I was there with him till the very end and I truely believe that he knew I was there. Dad was there when I came into the world and I was there when he left. Think I was really blessed. You stay with her and you will be glad yod. Feel free to message me if you want to talk. Take care. Chris
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November 2013
Hi again. One last thing I can say is be there for your mum through the night. I know it may be hard with young children. My son/daughter and myself were with dad the afternoon before and my daughter and I spent the whole night with him (only quickly going back home to see her kids-6 and 9 at the time) and were there when he took his last breath. Even though I miss him him so so much I am really thankful that I was there with him till the very end and I truely believe that he knew I was there. Dad was there when I came into the world and I was there when he left. Think I was really blessed. You stay with her and you will be glad yod. Feel free to message me if you want to talk. Take care. Chris
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November 2013
Hi again. One last thing I can say is be there for your mum through the night. I know it may be hard with young children. My son/daughter and myself were with dad the afternoon before and my daughter and I spent the whole night with him (only quickly going back home to see her kids-6 and 9 at the time) and were there when he took his last breath. Even though I miss him him so so much I am really thankful that I was there with him till the very end and I truely believe that he knew I was there. Dad was there when I came into the world and I was there when he left. Think I was really blessed. You stay with her and you will be glad yod. Feel free to message me if you want to talk. Take care. Chris
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November 2013
Hi there. I think I know the position you are in. In mid 2008 my dad was diagonised with terminal oesophageus cancer and by 2010 had gone downhill really fast. He too lived alone and was so independent even though he was legally blind. My daughter and I wanted him to come live with me-5 hours away. Eventually he had to come here but rushed to hospital next day where he was for 3 weeks till he passed. I so wanted him to come live with me but after social worker/occ health came they said I could not look after him. He died a peaceful death in hospital with family around - something I would not have coped with at home. Looking back now after 3 years it was probably the best thing. I only thought last week that if I was as sick as him I would want my grandkids to remember me as I am now and not see me in too much pain. Hope I have helped a bit but do spend lots of time with her and talk/laugh about memories. That has helped me a lot with my dad even though I still terribly miss him. Take care Chris
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April 2013
Hi. My situation is very different to yours as I am 62 years old and lost my beautiful dad aged 83 to same cancer back Sept 2010. From when dad was diagonised he lasted 2 half years which I am so greatful for. Like you I was a daddy's girl and I can just imagine how you feel at such a young age.Even now after nearly 3 years I still miss my dad so so much but you need to spend whatever time you have with him talking, laughing, crying and always remember all those special memories you both shared.I was in so much denial at the end but am so glad that I was there with him and he knew that.Just spend all the time you and your family can with him as I am sure they know who is around them. Like me you are his little girl and what more can you do but be there with him. Take care. Chris
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January 2013
Hi there. Like you I haven't posted on here for a long time.My beautiful dad passed in Sept 2010 and I was so lost without him as he was my best friend, advisor and I could always chat to him anytime day or night. I never thought I would get over losing him (he was 83)and I cried all the time the first 18 months or so and I still do. The thing that gets me through is the fact that I know he is always looking out for me. But it is really the many memories I have of him. I can be just sitting here and all of a sudden a memory will pop up and I will laugh and laugh. Even though the tears still come the fantastic memories still pull me through. That is dad's way of letting me know he is still around me and when tears are threatening I just have to rely on my many great memories.Just keep thinking of those memories. Chris
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August 2012
Hi there. I have not commented here for a while since my dear dad passed in 2010 but you and your words of wisdom helped me so much. You are such an inspirational person and I hope everything works out well for you.
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