I am in my 20s and I have quit my full time job to be a fulltime carer for my single mother who has terminal cancer. She has a prognosis of less then 1 year, I have moved back home to take care of her. At the moment I am struggling to adjust from being indepedant from renting and paying my own bills to carers payment via centrelink. I have a partner who is currently volenteering overseasa and I am finding it difficult to communicate with him/ this is straining our relationship as I tend to blame him for being unavailable.
Lately I am getting outburst of anger which is not normal, because I simply wake up and don't have a routine, I live day by day depending on my mothers need. I am contemplating getting a part time / casual job just for structure, or joining a pt class at the gym.
My mother had been diagonised 5 years ago with lung cancer and after chemo, radiation the cancer has returned and deemed terminal. I feel like I should be panicing, thinking of funeral cost or even speaking to family memembers about 'when if', to deal with the trauma of when my mother passes less stressful as possible.
I have never had to go through something like this before and I am really struggling how to cope each day with my emotions. Any advice would be appriciated. Thank you 🙂
I just wanted to check in and see how both yourself and your mother are doing this week.
I sent you an email a few weeks ago, with some information about our Telephone Support Groups and also recommended you contact 13 11 20 and ask about counselling. Did you have a chance to do so?
Hoping all is well
Cancer Council Online Community Manager
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