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Withdrawing from the world

Jules2
Super Contributor
February 2010

Re: Withdrawing from the world

Hiya Chris How wonderful that you managed to get some sleep this arvo. Hopefully you will get some tonight also. great that you got a relaxation pack and that its working for you. We are all at different stages and had different experiences and treatments, Some are carers and some are patients, however, we all have one thing in common. So i wouldnt be feeling guilty at all. :) Julie
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Jules2
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February 2010

Re: Withdrawing from the world

Hiya Chris How wonderful that you managed to get some sleep this arvo. Hopefully you will get some tonight also. great that you got a relaxation pack and that its working for you. We are all at different stages and had different experiences and treatments, Some are carers and some are patients, however, we all have one thing in common. So i wouldnt be feeling guilty at all. :) Julie
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chris_martin
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February 2010

Re: Withdrawing from the world

Hi Can anyone tell me if I have the right to contact my dad's dr without his permission to find out his prognosis. His neighbour (who I'm so thankful he has) takes him to appts tells me she has spoken to specialist but I would like to know if I ring Dr does he have to tell me details. Dad has me down as next of kin with hospital but I can't understand when neighbour picks dad up why dr gives her details
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chris_martin
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February 2010

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Hi there. Got a huge scare this morning. Dad went to hospital yesterday to have a stent put in oesophageus to make him more comfortable as hasn't been able to eat/swallow and was sent home last night. Got a call this morning saying he was rushed to hospital as vomiting blood and so distressed he couldn't even call 000. Despite him telling us not to come my daughter and I made the 7hr round trip to see him and I'm so glad I did!!! I have asked him to move down with me and I think he is scared now too. He needs to have someone with him all the time. But he is still worried it will all be too much for me as my health is bad as well. Any suggestions as to how I can convince him to move!!!!
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Jules2
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February 2010

Re: Withdrawing from the world

You could get help with caring for him. Silver chain or the like would probably help you out. I would contact a social worker and see what is available and then your dad might feel ok about being with you and not such a burden, not that is what he will be, prolly just how he is thinking though. 🙂
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chris_martin
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February 2010

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Hi Jules. I know that I will be able to care for him-although it may be hard. But at least I have my kids down here who he is very close to and especially his great grandkids so I have no worry about support- it is all up to him deciding he wants to make the move. I do understand that it would be so daunting to have to up and move but my family will do all that for him. I just think it's so important he spends whatever time he has left with family who love him so much and not feel a burden. xoChris
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Jules2
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February 2010

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Hey Chris You have put it in a nut shell most beuatifully. Tell him or write a letter to him just as you have written. Then it will be up to him. Julie xo
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chris_martin
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February 2010

Re: Withdrawing from the world

Hi Julie. I can't write him a letter as he is legally blind but OMG I am going to tell him when he gets home as he needs to know how I feel. And I can't go through what I went through this morning with those phone calls- I need him to be here with me so I can deal with problems and not neighbours. I may seem ungrateful but I'm not. If his good neighbour hadn't found him this morning he wouldn't be here now and I' SO thankful to her but he needs his family. And as I said before I think he knows that now too. I do know it will be hard but at least I have heaps of support out there and as I have said before dad has always been my rock and source of emotional support and now I want to be there for him. But his problem is he is worried about about what will happen to me if he goes. I'll just have to convince him I will be ok!!!!. Thanks so much for your support xo Chris
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CATS
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February 2010

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Chris, I can't add anymore to what has been said - Julie has said exactly what I was going to say - and if your Dad needs any further incentive to move - tell him his grand kids and great grand kids want to see more of him as it is far too difficult at the moment being so far away. Also tell him that it will improve your health - you won't need to travel so far and be worried so much because he will be 'here'. Good good good luck - gee Dad's can be troublesome - as I used to tell mine!!! He used to say it was 'parent's revenge'. Yeah - very funny - NOT!!
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Jules2
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February 2010

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Good luck with it chris .. perhaps your dad will see the sense in it all now. :) Julie xo
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