Hi Chriss... I am 62 going on 63 in a few. I was fortunate to literally dance thru the chemo and Radio weeks on just acetaminophen pretty much due to a high tolerance for pain. From week 5 on life was hell...and after treatments, it simply got worse. The side effects, the loss of strength, inability to gain weight. Lymphoedema on neck and throat...No insurance and unable to work, so no way to get medial help or advice except Internet info and disinfo. Is the cancer back? Was the question first thing in the morning and last before bed...the over and over as I struggled with pain no longer ameliorated by acetaminophen. Scary and yes depressing to feel less than a man for a loving wife. I sometimes came across those two bottles of oxycontin (never opened) and mused that putting an end to the uncertainty, pain and fears would be easy enough. I mean-to live so far below one's potential, where even eating became a challenge, no energy, no drive, no socializing to speak of, inability to work. Seriously, to me that was not living. But then it occurred to me-hey, I don't know if cancer is back. My refusal to throw my family into further debt may be a doubtfully noble quirk worthy of a Drama King (or queen) but the fact that I continue to get out of bed every morning does not give me the right to make life miserable to those who love me and stand by me. It should have been a No Brainer but in my case it was an epiphany. FIND A WAY TO OVERCOME THOSE DEBILITATING SIDE EFFECTS. -Accept that your body will never be the same AND learn to surpass the new limits. -Accept that your mind is in a space you do not want to be in and LEARN to look for a direction towards where you can be and thrive. DO it because you choose to live! Do it because it will improve not just your life condition, but that of those WHO LOVE YOU AND STAY WITH YOU when most would abandon you...just to keep their Sanity. Cheers, Joe
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