Hi Patches,         I’m sorry that you are going thru a very emotional time.  I totally understand where you are coming from.  If my husband said pass the salt, I would cry.   It was his tone and see my husband was being nice to everyone else and calling or saying mean things to me.  So I totally understand.   I’m also sorry that your husband has Cancer.  God Bless him, and we are all very Thankful for his service to for our country.  Honestly I do understand, you saying he was in the military and men don’t cry.  My husband wasn’t in the service and shows no emotion, and he wasn’t in the service.   I also want you to know that Yes he has Cancer and is scared, but you love him and you are scared also.  The care taker or loved one who helps them day in and day out, is on the path completely with them.  We are scared.  I would be lying if I said I wasn’t. I love my husband, he is the father of my three kids.   But I am not Gonna be treated like I don’t matter.  I am not going to pretend he doesn’t hurt my feelings bc he has before Cancer and now with Cancer.   I am not a door mat.  I am a grown woman who loves him as you do your husband and we don’t deserve to be treated as we don’t matter, be we all know we do.  They are scared and I do totally understand a bad day.  We all have them even if we don’t have Cancer.  But the name calling or treating us like we are A-holes, ya that isn’t gonna happen.  You are an amazing person.  You love your husband and are sticking by your vows.  For better or worse.  He is damn lucky to have such a wonderful, loving and caring wife to be by his side.  I wish my husband would show emotion and tears.  It’s alright to hug him while he’s hurting and scared.  My theory is I would do what I wish my husband would do to me if I were crying.  Especially because they are men that don’t show emotion, maybe they weren’t allowed to show it when younger.  But it’s ok to show him you care by hugging him tightly and telling him you love him and you are always going to be right there by his side.  I will always be by my husbands side, even tho I’m not seeing any tears from mine.  I totally understand you not reaching out due to the abuse he has shown you, when you cry.  But we were raised two wrongs don’t make a right!   So show him that you care when he cries.   And see if it teaches him to reach out to you when you cry.  I’m 50 years old.  I don’t know your age but I do know the saying do onto others as you would want done for you.  It might take a few times but hopefully he will get that when you cry maybe you just need to hear I love you or just a hug.  I know bc that’s all I want too!!! You are an amazing woman.  I am sending you many many hugs GREAT BIG ONES!!! But if my husband is being nasty I stay away.  See they can always say it’s us, but when we say it’s them, they say well you made me be that way by doing this or that.  I say BS...and I yell back, bc he may have the cancer, but we are second in line to that Cancer.  God bless you and I really hope to hear back from you.  You can vent to me anytime.  HUGS to you PAtches...😊 ... View more

Lolie,    im so glad you have such amazing kids, and  undoubtably adore their mom.  I’m also glad your treatment is going well for you.  I’m praying everything continues to go smoothly for you and you go right into good health and much love.  Which sounds like you have all the love around you.  Know I am cheering you on and will continue to pray for you.  ❤️ ... View more

Lolie,   Amen to that statement! how are you doing with your treatment?  how are you feeling? Do you have any help?  Please know your in my prayers.  You are such a kind hearted soul.  ❤️ ... View more

Lolie, I’m so sorry you are going through so much, yet you are always there to send a sweet message to my husband and  I.  You are also in my thoughts and prayers.  ❤️🙏🏻 ... View more

Lolie,   Thank you so much!  🙏🏻❤️ ... View more

Jb729,   Thank you!  I might take a few days from posting.  I’m just devastated and so heartbroken.  All I can do is think of my kids, and how this is going to hurt them so much.  This is killing me, so to imagine what they are feeling at this time.  God give me strength.  Again Thank you so much to you all.  Your love and support is greatly appreciated...💔 ... View more

JB729,    Thank you for you kind words.  Unfortunately there will be no good news to share.  I got the worst news ever.  💔. I am praying for you and sending you positive thoughts.     ... View more

Hi Lolie,   Thank you so very much.  You are very kind to think of us.   ... View more

Colin81,   you are absolutely right!  Thank you so much for your very kind words.  They are very much appreciated and heart felt.  Again Thank you Traci ... View more

Hi Colin81,   Thank you for thinking of me and my husband. My husband made it thru his very barbaric surgery 1-15-20.  He is amazing.  Unfortunately didn’t get everything I wanted out of it, which is a huge heartbreaker.  But I will talk to you soon.  I’m just very emotional right now.  Again Thank you and please keep in touch.  And remember to take care of yourself please.  Your Friend Traci   ps.  Before my husband went in for surgery we celebrated our 22nd wedding Anniversary and we’ve been together 28...😊 now I know it isn’t probably as long as you but it’s a huge accomplishment to us.  🙏🏻 ... View more