Hi guys, Like Nicole, words don't seem to be fitting but at the moment they are all we have. When one of my closest friends lost her husband(of course from this crap disease) we all just banded together and gave her an ear or a shoulder. This is all I can offer you as well and cyber hugs for you and your families. Remember to take even a little time for yourselves, even it is just here. Lots of hugs, S ... View more

Always Sailor the voice of wisdom and perspective. Never baffling us with science, just presenting it as it is. S ... View more

Waffle away Katie! Teach and I are great at it!! I love that you have developed a "have no regrets attitude". When I was having treatment I also had a very close friend whoe was dying and lived 12 hours drive away.My husband buried himself as well and when I asked to fly up he would always say that Phil had plenty of time. Perhaps because of the conversations Phil and I used to have, I knew this wasn't true. I missed him by one day and I always regret this . I spoke to him on the phone but never got to give him a hug. Das's vagueness could be due to a number of things - age, chemo, stress. But I'm sure that he loves having you phone calls and is really keen to see you. He is lucky to have you. Keep waffling and offloading. Always someone to listen here. Samex ... View more

Just coming in on this Julie and vinouche. Never be embarrassed to ask questions. Your oncologist should make you feel comfortable enough to refer to your notes. I also know how you feel about not wanting to burden your friends. They may surprise you and be grateful that they are able to help you through this.I had a really good couple of friends who were always there and told me that they were glad that I thought so much of them that I asked them for help. One thing cancer does - makes us a little more humble i think. Take care, Samex ... View more

Hi Nicole, This is really frightening for you so may I suggest (as others may) the Cancer Council Helpline and also perhaps you might like to contact a social worker at the hospital where your husband is being treated. Depending on how your husband feels about letting friends etc know about his condition, ask for help from friends, especially with your little boy. I found when I was on treatment even though my kids were teenagers, that real friends came out of the woodwork. Once they knew about my circumstances, I had people turn up with meals, do my housework and offer to drive me anywhere I needed a lift. There is no easy way to deal with this but there are people who may be able to assist. This site is also great if you just need to offload yourself. No-one's emotions or experiences are more or less important than anyone else's. Take care, Samex ... View more

Hi Jules, Beats me why the bother. The admin guys are onto them quickly so that must get very little from it. Ho hum, S ... View more

I am in a similar situation with CT scans every 12 months now for bowel cancer. Personally, I am claustrophobic and the thought of an MRI absolutley freaks me out. Maybe I am naieve but I have faith in the knowledge of my doctors when the dangers are weighed against each other. As we all know, in a perfect world none of us would be in the situation to have to ponder these things. In saying that, it is something that I may discuss with my doctors. S ... View more

Have a great snooze, with only clear thoughts. My onc actually suggested art therapy for my depression and anxiety but I haven't had time to track down one in my local area. Apparently there was one, but it folded. Knowing my luck it would have been during the day while I'm at work anyway. Take care, S ... View more

What can I say - Bugger. So sorry that you have to start the merry-go-round again. S ... View more