Sailor No I didn't mention that to them, to be honest i was gobsmacked and it was only after the appointment that I thought about it. Now that would be scary asking for them to write an appication letter when they list two of my jobs as illness. Ohhh I can just see it ... i am experienced in knowing what veins people should try and use. lol Actually I wrote an application letter and they have changed it all. When i made it clear that I was not happy with that and I really could not see the point in applying for work experience if I could not even write an appication letter. I have told these people I am fragile and have lost confidence. The whole system is only designed to further put people down. The individuals within the system are no better ... i had a phone message yesterday and the tone of voice was most contrite and yet the terminology used was not. So I ponder who needs to look at their language skills. 🙂 I am glad you have gotten to the stage where you don't measure your life in years. I think the first time I was diagnosed with cancer I didn't have time to think about much at all. Having a small baby meant that my focus was on him and not so much on my illness. This time i find it is the system that now causes me stress and concern and I detest being in this situation. This is just one thing that has happened with this organisation ... most of it is just unbelievable and yet it is true. Cheers Julie ... View more

S Goodness did that hit right in the stomach? Glad you have been able to remain friends though. I have a very good friend who is still trying to put me back into the person I used to be. We have had a small chat about this and I explained I am not the same person anymore. Of course the core of me is but i have changed in a short space of time. No they don't think and with this organisation I have now gone through three people who don't think. They have organised volly work in a palliative care dept, then it was someone who decided they would do my resume and put ms and cancer as part of the jobs i have done in the part 5 years or so. Now it is someone who when being sent a copy of a letter of application she crossed out nearly the entire letter and has rewritten it. This is all after telling them that I am fragile and have lost a lot of confidence. I am over it all and really at a loss as to where to turn with all of this. Julie ... View more

Hi Bek Sorry to hear about your mum, although that is good that the tumours are on hold for now. Regarding your children there is a lot of literature out there on how to help them understand. I am sure the cancer council would have some of it and also most social workers can get their hands on it. You could contact the social worker at the hospital or have a look on the cc website, there is all sorts of resources on there. Take care Julie ... View more

Good idea re the bloke approach. It is hard to stand back and watch when you know people are having a difficult time. I am sure your fil appreciates you being so caring. 🙂 ... View more

Only that you can't tell someone unless they want to hear. 🙂 Everyone comes to realisations in their own time and I guess all we can do is to be there if and when people need us. ... View more

Did i win? ... View more

another spammy thing ... far out! ... View more

gees louise another spammy attempt ... View more

Hi Carolyn Might be a good idea to stay in touch with your psychologist. Hopefully someone can get something sorted for you. Julie ... View more