We only have each other - so i guess we need to be there for one another, thank you for your thoughts. ... View more

Hey Mads, Reading your blog just now and realised there was something i was supposed to do today - damm! Listen, im here please dont be afraid to pick up the phone and send a txt telling me you feel like shit, if you can call the cancer helpline call me! - we dont have to talk about it or; when your ready, we dont have to stop talking about it! Watever you want Mads, dont sit there and feel lonely when im here feeling just like you, i went through it too. Whenever you need a friend mads, im here. I really want to build up a friendship with you, things are going to be hard for both of us for awhile - so remember im here ok :) Tske care hun xoxo ... View more

Thank you for your kind words and i completely agree with you. You have sumed it up perfectly! ... View more

Thank you 🙂 I try to do the best i can. Not a fun job, but someone has to do it! ... View more

Hi Darkie, Yes Mum does type - her ID on here is "No Voice". Mum has only just started to blog, hence why there is only one on there from her. She will be sitting down over the weekend to reply and post another one. I will let mum know about your forums also, thank you for this information and your extended support :) ... View more

Wow Chris, 😞 i agree with your brothers; its time i think for you to let him go and be at piece. Its not selfish of you at all, its not cruel to let him be free of this pain. If anything, it is the most honarable thing you can do. I would never want to be where you are and i wait everytime for your reply, you must be tired and very confused right now. My mum finally gave my nan the permission to go, after much resilience but she didnt for a long time. When someone is ready to go, they know it - it kind of calls to them i feel. He wants to be in piece, away from this pain and as hard for you as that is, you will always know that you gave him that say in his life. The final say. The most important say in his life. The decision to stop the pain and be happy. Think about if this were you, the life you have already had - the great times, experiences, working a family being a man, a strong man. Now think about what its like for him now. What he must be feeling the anger and frustration of not being the person he used to be. Seeing you in pain would only make it harder. The thought of a life living in a home is not a nice one for anyone. Wow this is really close to home for me and as i sit here tonight my heart goes out to you, not sympathy at all ok but absolute and pure empathy for what you have to deal with. Please think about your dad, dont make him hold on if he doesnt want to. Speak soon ... View more

Hi Darkiescorner, Can i start off by saying that statement "I decided that, as my breasts had 'discovered how to make cancer' they could go and the following week" was absolutely hilarious! I showed Mum and she thought that was great! I am sorry to hear about your dear friend, may i say that without your assistance im sure life would of been very hard for her. You are right thought about cancer demanding alot of our time. Yes, friends leave and are freightened but does that justify there actions? I think thats a cop out; what about the fear in the person, the feelings of loneliness and despair that doesnt go away without those peoples support? It just amazes me how people can sit there and judge, look down and criticise those who do wrongful things when people are doing them everyday behind closed doors! In the end, we have each other - we may only have the two of us, and this website but i have dreams, hopes and fears like everyone. Im not a dreamer, im a doer and if anything im working harder and being stronger to make her see that life is shit, yes no doubt, but its what you make it everyday, if that makes sense :) ... View more

My nan constantly asked us "when am i coming home?" even though we would tell her thats not going to happen. I think i said it about 500 times at least to her, before and whilst she was in the home. Its not as easy as you think to let go Chris, why dont you think he can adapt. If you can commit to visiting him regularly, a good nursing home should have activities and things to keep your dad busy. I know its takes time and sometimes a few tries to get the right place but hopefully when you do, the fear goes and it becomes a home. Its so easy to sit here and give advice to you when im not living in your shoes, but i hope you stay strong. Keep that chin up. I know its hard, dont sit there with that pain Chris, it will only make it worse and will spiral you into a hole of deep depression that i dont think you want to go down. Prepare yourself - there is not much you can do but in the same breath there are things you can do. Keep telling him why he cant come home, make him understand that he is safer there and that you love him and wish things could be different but its because you love him that he needs to be there. Promise to never forget he is there, to visit and bring him watever he needs. Make his new accomadation feel like home 😉 ... View more

Hi Chris, its hard to care for someone when you, yourself are sick and need taking care of. Spend time with him, let him know your there - like i was told, when i asked the same question about my mum, all you can do is love and love and love and i know it hurts and you want him there at home, i can only imagine, but when he is at that stage; there is nothing you can do, but be strong for him. Take time for yourself too, keep active and keep doing the things you enjoy. Dementia and altziemers are just as horrible as cancer itself, i believe worse at times as it eats away the brain and can never be replaced. How someone can forget so easily is amazing. I certainly feel for what you have been going through over the last few weeks but remember that if your not well, you cant help him or be supportive. So look after yourself Chirs first and your daughter. All the best, keep smiling 🙂 ... View more