September 2010
Hey there daughter that's great news :D:) She has now at least shown some motivation & cooking a meal for you is a great start. As for the cake.........whether she made it or bought it doesn't matter cos it's the thought that counts & what counts even more is that (as you said) it was bloody good! (Yum) 🙂 Lood forward to next week cos she's done it once i reckon she'll do it again ;)
Mez 🙂
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September 2010
We only have each other - so i guess we need to be there for one another, thank you for your thoughts.
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September 2010
Hello again 🙂 have just come in from the garden and found you here so thought I would answer now.
Yes life can be shit, we were never promised it was going to be 'easy'. When life is easy we don't learn anything, it has to be hard to make us think and re-think our ideas and develop our knowledge, which cannot all come out of books.
And yes, you are right, life is what you make it. If we keep our sense of curiosity alive and well, then cancer, whatever we lose through it, will slowly minimise as other things take over.
Even without being able to speak your Mum can read and listen and communicate by writing or typing.
She could write books - I am just now working my way through writing my first novel and it is such an interesting hobby.
That's great that your Mum can type, it gives her such an outlet to talk and communicate with others and that is so important.
It must be so distressing for her not to be able to just join in with conversation again whenever she wants to.
I live on my own so I don't get to see a lot of people to chat to, which is one reason I do keep in contact with a couple of chat rooms. One can make such good friends this way and there are so many benefits...
You don't have to be dressed to talk to friends.
You don't have to have a clean house.
You don't have to have have cake and biscuits ready for them.
You can chat whenever it suits you.
and it is nice to have people out there who you know and will chat about things that interest you. :-)
I am beginning to lose my hearing ... I am getting on in years a bit, so I also find chatting this way means I actually don't miss a word !! ;-)
I live in southern Tasmania, where are you?
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September 2010
I thought i would put in a group message to the young carers out there looking after someone with cancer! GO US!!!!
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September 2010
Thank you for your kind words and i completely agree with you. You have sumed it up perfectly!
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November 2010
Its never easy to watch your loved ones go through this. I have been through both sides, having lost my Dad last year and now going through the cancer treatment myself. Everyone is different in how they cope and react and I can only tell you from my experience you cant do it all for your Mum. I agree with Lee, Carers need care too, Your Mum needs to do whats good for her, and that needs to come from her too. You are doing a great job just being there for her. Take care of yourself,- its not about being selfish, -its about you being strong for yourself and therefore being stronger to help your Mum and others. If that makes sense?
Vicki
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January 2011
Hi sweetie
How are you now? It must be so hard not hearing your Mums voice (((hugs)))
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September 2010
hi! im 23 also and i know how hard it is supporting someone with cancer.. my bf has bowel cancer.. i struggle everyday to keep things normal but its so hard. Ive noticed my friends arnt there for me like they used to be.. it seems like they dont care. I cry in the mornings sometimes on the way to work.. thinking of shitty things ahead... the thought of my partner passing away is to much for me.. the pain is to real and i hate it. I keep trying to remember our lives before cancer and its very hard!
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September 2010
Thanks Maddy, its hard to think about how far youve come when youve got a whole road of shit to go true! lol - i dont have many friends, and the ones i do have dont come over much anymore. This is the only place i can let go, and tell people what im feeling.
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