Oh wow. I am so sorry to hear that. I'm probably not going to be much help but honey, don't quit, don't stop fighting. Tell your Doctors you are not taking no for an answer and need them to give you assistance to fight this no matter what. You have to much to live for. There's a chance you may need to get a second opinion. Has the cancer spread anywhere else? Can they not perform radical surgery on you? Anything is better than the outcome they have given you. Once again, I am so sorry and I wish there was more I could do to help. Krista. ... View more

That is great news. I hope it has managed to ease your stress just a little. I'm sorry that your Mum isn't being sympathetic. That must be really hard on you. ... View more

I wonder how you are doing now, Rebecca? My husband, at 15 months was given a week to live. He is my world, my hope and we now have a little boy and a little one on the way. Anything is possible! My thoughts and best wishes are with you. Krista. ... View more

I know this is old but I just wanted to reiterate how difficult it is. I am 3 hours from our hospital (we attend at least every 6mo) and on my husbands last big surgery, I ended up forking out $700 out of our savings. Due to the fact that IPTAAS gave our last reimbursment to my husband's brother and mother (who, stole the money and pocketed it and lied until we told them we knew they had received it), we were still hurt and never claimed. It is very difficult. In a sense, I am now lucky that our son will be having scopes and so we should be able to stay at the Ronald McDonald house and have my husband's scopes scheduled at the same time. I am working part-time. My husband has attempted to study but has had to defer 3 times over the last 3 years and isn't getting anywhere and I am unable to hold a full time job due to caring for him. So we are both currently on centrelink payments. I think we may have to go for Carer's allowance now that our son has been diagnosed as the constant trips to hospital are really taking a toll on our budget. ... View more

Firstly, Maddie, I am sorry you are having to watch your boyfriend go through this. He is in very good hands sweetheart and the doctors will be doing all they can to ensure he recovers well and without pain. My husband had his last major bowel surgery Christmas 2008 and they rushed to discharge him the day before Christmas. Nevertheless, he ended up back in hospital when we went away on holidays. Four days is still early. I think about a week is normal for hospitalisation. All the best. Try and get some sleep knowing he is in good hands. You need to take care of yourself so you can be there for him. Regards, Krista. ... View more

Apologies, didn't realise how old your post was. I hope you are doing well. ... View more

Hi there. I'm sorry that you have to make this decision. Have your Doctors swayed you either way? I know there is a very real chance that you could lose your fertility, and if you definately want a sibling for you child, or are even unsure, I would probably suggest that you do harvest eggs. Obviously, you could try naturally down the track and if nothing happens in say, 12 months, then you will have those eggs to fall back on. My husband and I were very lucky. He was told he would never be able to have children from quite a number of procedures (including a massive dose of chemo as a child) and we conceived our precious little son after about 3 years and our 2nd child after about 3 months. So, there is always hope but are you prepared to take the possible risks? Only you can answer that. Good luck. Krista. ... View more