Hi BobH,
I am sorry to hear about your wife and her cancer and agree with the advice that the others have given you.
It seems that you did what most people do and turn to he internet for information. It was good to read that you stopped. My wife did that with my cancer (panreatic) and it almost destroyed her. There is far too much negative information out there and it outweighs any positive information that you may find.
The only advice that I could give you which would be useful, is make time for yourself. You are going to need it and I say this after having watched my wife begin to burn herself out trying to do everything and find out everything. You may also want to consider a counseling session or two so that you can talk freely with someone who is there simply to listen.
From personal experience, let her do things around the house when she is up to it. I have had a short spell where I was stopped from doing things. This was very, very frustrating as it took away some of my self identity and self worth. After all, life is not over, it's just different. When she is not up to it, she will appreciate everything that you are doing for her.
Other than that, let yourself be sad, angry, overwhelmed when you need to. It helps to empty the negative emotions so that you can get up and fight again.
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