Your dad sounds just like my husband dosnt want to talk much about his cancer either but it sound like you do need to talk and have information I would be getting some counselling to help you cope with your dads cancer, not knowing the prognoisis is hard also you may be able to organize an appointment with your dads dr and discuss it with him, i am going to do that with my husband dr as it is very hard to as the doctor in front of him what the prognosis is but i feel i want to know as i think it will make it easier to deal with it if i know. of course sometimes they just dont know and you just have to go along living from one appointment to the other, just be there for your dad and remember to make the most of your time together. The cancer council can organize counselling for you. All the best. ... View more

How did your mum go with the new lump? I can understand why she didnt tell you in a way she is protecting you from worrying as she obviously knows how much you will be effected by this. We have the same situation but in reverse, my husband has liver cancer and hasnt told his mother the whole truth because she lost her husband 12 months ago and just a few days ago lost her best friend both of them to cancer and because she is in NSW and us in Vic it is hard, but should my husband not respond to the latest treatment we will be telling her the whole truth. ... View more

So now we play the waiting game again, we now wait 6-7 weeks to find out if the treatment has shrunk the tumour am trying to just put it out of my mind but he is still feeling the effects of the Sirt treatment getting very tired but to his credit he is stuggling off to work, if only we didnt have to worry about money he could just rest as much as he needed but we still have to pay the bills and the mortgage they dont stop because you have cancer. ... View more

Dear Nellie, I am so sorry for your loss, I am supporting my husband through liver cancer and dread what has happened to you i am doing all i can to prepare my self in case it does but am sure i will feel the same as you do as we have been married for 30 years, a girl at work lost her husband about 8 months ago and at times feels so lost and lonely she finds it beneficial to write on facebook exactly how she is feeling, i cannot do that as my husband hasnt told his mother all the facts, but i write in a diary instead and am having counseling starting today so dont be affraid to get counselling go on antidepressents etc anything that helps you get through grief is a personal experience and everyone handles it differently and for defferent amounts of time the cancer council offer councelling for grief for up to 2 years afterwards so make use of it. ... View more

yes just being there and letting him talk about how he is feeling is of great support, I find it beneficial if I can be completely honest with someone about how I am feeling as I have to be positive around my husband keep his spirits up but I need to talk about how I am feeling honestly to other people without being judged as not being positive. ... View more

I find the waiting is sometimes the hardest part, but I have learnt to relax between appointments we have had a wait of 2 months between being told transplant isn't an option because his tumour is sticking into his portal vein and the next step of Sirt treatment which took place last Tuesday I have learnt to adopt the mantra that worrying wont change things it will just zap my health and then I wont be any good to my husband. At the moment because he has had the radioactive spheres inserted into his liver because his tumour was not operable and tace didn't do much for it, we are aunable to sleep together and have contact physically it is hard even the poor dog isn't allowed to cuddle him and she is a bit sad too. ... View more

I find the waiting is sometimes the hardest part, but I have learnt to relax between appointments we have had a wait of 2 months between being told transplant isn't an option because his tumour is sticking into his portal vein and the next step of Sirt treatment which took place last Tuesday I have learnt to adopt the mantra that worrying wont change things it will just zap my health and then I wont be any good to my husband. At the moment because he has had the radioactive spheres inserted into his liver because his tumour was not operable and tace didn't do much for it, we are aunable to sleep together and have contact physically it is hard even the poor dog isn't allowed to cuddle him and she is a bit sad too. ... View more