Hi Rachael, I'm so sorry you have to go through this.  I was lucky enough to be able to keep working when my husband was going through chemo, but the thought of having to give up my job if he got really sick was there, and it was very scary.  Is there an option for you to go part time for a while, to make the change gradually?  Or could you talk to your boss or HR department about taking an extended leave of absence, so you don't loose touch completely? (You could always reassess later). Also, it may be that you would be eligible for a carer's allowance and other government assistance programs (home help etc.) if you did resign to become a full time carer- your husband's GP or the Cancer Council will know more about that. Unfortunately only you can make the right decision, but know you have a community here to support you in whatever you choose.  Sending lots of huge hugs just for you.  Emily   ... View more

Glad to hear that you will be able to take some time away! No matter how minimal it may be it all counts in the end. I hope anyone in a similar predicament will be able to do the same. I also hope that the social worker is able to help you with resources that will be beneficial in your situation. I have not been through the same predicament, but I know a few people that have, and its important to always stay tough and strong, no matter how bleak things may be. Keep in mind that we're all here for you in some way or form, chin up  ... View more

I totally get it. I have a similar situation. My husband is 44yo. We don't have kids together but he has two adult children, both who struggle with the guilt of not being able to help us more. He sleeps a lot also. Rarely go anywhere as he simply feels too unwell or we go out and need to come home quickly due to pain, vomiting etc. I feel a little numb, traumatised emotionally. We moved out of the city almost 2 years ago to get a better life. We love our home but it is a lonely place for me. He doesn't like people coming over and I, like you, try to fill in my time around the house. I have my own health issues so also need a lot of rest. Working full time means I stress & worry all day but his medical expenses & medication costs take up a large amount of my income. I don't know what to do anymore. We don't have much support. My mum is wonderful but his family r selfish & cold. A source of great anger for me! Thinking of you as u continue on the journey you r both on. Thank u for posting as I read a very familiar story. Love & prayers 🙏🏻🦋 ... View more