My husband has pancreatic stage 3 cancer. We have had Whipple and are doing chemo very harsh. Hopefully we will withstand this and the mighty hand of the only one who can make the difference will intervene. In the meantime I am waiting, trying to make dent in the emotional pattern of grief both of us have bumped head into... I will be praying for you both... I do believe in miracles...even when they are delayed.... ... View more

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Hi Joy1,   I'm so sorry for what you are going through.  I am going through the same thing.  A different, rare cancer.    My husband oscillates between angry and sad, mostly angry.  Plus, he is in pain.  It is excruitiating to watch him be in pain and be so angry.  The truth is, he was angry before, but now it is a whole new anger...with sadness.  It is heart-wrenching.    He is also angry at me.  I feel so guilty that he has cancer and I don't that I feel like I deserve his anger.  Which, is not emotionally healthy.   Anyway, you are not alone.   I am sending you healthing thoughts and prayers.     ... View more

 Meltx19 You are right to look realistic with Pancreatic Cancer , it’s hard to overcome the changes in your body that are there after surgery and also the mental side ,I think depression can come with this diagnosis ,Its understandable your husbands frustration ,but it does not help either of you ,I remember the worry and concern my family went through along the way,we did find talking about our problems helped ,nothing was taboo.It may help if you both chat to your GP about what is happening ,he may be able to suggest something more to help.The Cancer Council also have services available . It’s very hard to see a loved one go through this,yes it does hurt you very much watching what is happening and feeling helpless,that’s a very hard part of life ... View more