November 2019
1 Kudo
Thank you for the reply. I know it's his choice I guess I don't understand why he would want to do that given the risks of not doing it. I know I don't know how he feels and I get that. We have an appointment with the oncologist on friday to talk about adding the other chemo drug that he has yet to have and now he is saying he may not do it if it's going to make him feel worse It makes me so scared.
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November 2019
Sadly I know all to well how you feel. My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer in July and for me I have a couple of friends only that check in with me to make sure I am doing ok and some get me out (which I always feel guilty about), Friends that we have had for years don't call anymore, and the ones that do are people that we have never been really close to but they are the ones that call frequently to see how he is doing. One of them have gone through cancer and chemo, a different kind so he knows how he is feeling. We appreciate those calls so much. Family are the others that check in frequently.
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November 2019
1 Kudo
My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer in early July and had his colon resection late July. The surgeon is confident all of the cancer was removed but due to lymph nodes being involved chemo is always done as a "mop up". My husband is currently doing his 5th of 12 treatments and each time it gets worse, he says he wants to stop chemo that he can't take the side effects anymore and that he can go through all of this and it can still have it come back. I hate seeing him feel so sick with chemo but I also don't want him to stop chemo. I keep encouraging him to to continue as we want him to have the best chance at survival and stage 3 is curable. What am I suppose to do and feel if he ends up choosing to stop chemo?
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September 2019
3 Kudos
I am sorry you are going through this. I couldn't even imagine going through it with little ones at home. My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer had his surgery 2 1/2 months ago and just completed his second round of chemo. His moods are all over the place. It is so difficult watching our loved ones go through this. I hear more often than not how he wants to give up because the chemo has been very hard on him. He gets short at times and I try really hard not to take it personally but sometimes because I feel so overwhelmed and stressed I get mad when he gets upset. I try to gently remind him that I'm here to help and support him and to please not to take it on those around him, he apologizes and I get it, I get he's scared, feels like crap ect. Usually when he gets in these moods i either leave him alone for awhile or I'll just sit next to him and say nothing. Thankfully our kids are grown. My heart goes out to you during this time.
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September 2019
1 Kudo
I'm so sorry you are going through this. My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer end of June and had his surger end of July. Thankfully he did not need the colostomy bag but I understand how you feel. My husband just started chemo so he has had one round only, they are only doing the 5fu right now because right after his surgery he started developing some nerve issues. He has good days and bad days, thankfully he doesn't take it out on me but he gets in these moods where he just gets angry and says things like he doesn't want to be here anymore because of all of the medical issues he has going on and this and now this new neuropathy. I never know what to do or say, I get frustrated and I feel guilty when I feel like I just need a break away. These dianosis definitley change your life.
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August 2019
1 Kudo
I'm so sorry you are going through this at such a difficult time. I would really only suggest having a heart to heart with him and maybe asking why he is doing it? Sorry to hear about his diagnosis.
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August 2019
1 Kudo
My husband has developed some nerve issues since he had his surgery for stage 3 colon cancer. He hasn't even started chemo yet. Since the oxaliplatin causes neuropathy the oncologist doesn't want to do that right now, she wants to start with only the 5-fu until the neurologist figures out what his nerve thing is. Now he is even more afraid that the cancer will come back without having both chemo drugs. Is that the case, will there be a higher risk of that?
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August 2019
2 Kudos
My husband will be starting 6 months of treatmet of folfox in a few weeks. Things we have read are very frightening and concerning. The oncologist has told us that most all of her patients do well with it and most work a regular full time job so we are relly worried. Neuropathy is our biggest concern as my husband already has had nerve issues in the past due to an auto immune thing he had years ago. The oncologist said that she would watch it very carefully. He is going to go in before chemo and have a nerve conduction test to get his baseline and after each treatment they will talk about any effects he may be having and she may either have to alter the dose and if it continues may have to stop altogether. Just curious how others have done on this. thanks
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August 2019
1 Kudo
Thank you I appreciate your encouragement. I'm sorry that you had to go through that yourself.
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July 2019
Thank you. Yes my husband has other medical issues but all under control. It's the unknown that I think is causing him anxiety such as going into chemo, wondering if his brain tumor (or a different one) has come back, he has newish arm pain so I know he is very stressed and frustrated, he always tells me he's tired of living which is so hard for me to hear. We have gone to doctors including er about the nausea and no one has any idea except to say it has to be anxiety or acid reflux ( we already looked into that right before his surgery and that was good, had upper endoscopy). He has been give ativan, phenergan and zofran. PCP has now dropped this into his gastros lap again. I don't know if I quite believe its all due to anxiety because he literally wakes up from a dead sleep feeling very sick, nauseaus and queasy. No heart racing like with anxiety or anything just nauseous. The only other thing gastro has suggested is a motility test which he was suppose to go in for right before his surgery but he was too nauseated to do it and couldn't eat the recommended food. The Ativan seems to work the best, phenergan is pretty good and zofran takes edge off. It is so frustrating.
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