Hi JB729, I hope you are doing well, I just figured I would check in with you.  My husband had his HIPEC surgery 1-15-20.  He pulled thru a very barbaric surgery.  Unfortunately not with the best results but I’m still living minute by minute.  I hope to hear back from you.  Please take care ... View more

Hi  BJ067,   Thank you for your kind words, regarding my husbands surgery.  Well it was a tough surgery and all day surgery.  He pulled thru like a superhero.  He is just amazing.  Everyone who is fighting Cancers is amazing.  I pray for you all.  I pray for you all to have health, love and family or a good friend to be there thru this journey with you.  I pray every day a new treatment or medication comes your way.  I pray that something makes you smile, laugh or just a kind hearted person helping you out any small way they can.  Keep fighting  stay strong and know that lots of people including my self are cheering you on.  I myself am one of my husbands biggest cheerleaders.  Unfortunately we didn’t get what we hoped for, but I won’t stop hoping and praying and enjoying and loving my husband  and the power of love and strength goes a long long way.  Hugs to you all ... View more

Thank you for your kind words.  My husband has Mixed Goblet Cell Carcinoid Adenocarcinoma of the appendix.  It’s not really a good one to have, usually when they catch it it’s a later stage, kinda like pancreas.  It’s so sad that they don’t test people more like blood tests to catch things earlier than a late stage level.   yes when and if my husband goes to work these days he usually kisses me goodbye before he leaves...that’s if he likes me that day or not...so sad.  Since his diagnosis I treat every holiday or anything about him as big as I can.  I wish he looked at it that way.  Maybe I’ll go before him and he will regret it.  Well hopefully...bc I don’t know what to do if I lost him...but again thank you for your outlook and kind words...tough day for me and with his surgery coming up I’m more and more nervous.  I just wish he would be happy to be with me, I have done so many things for him, and I just feel like a joke...like this is all a mean joke!!! Cancer and all... ... View more

Please try again, that is weird, but please would love to hear from you.  Thank you  🙏🏻 😊 ... View more

Colin81,     Thank you for your kind words, and sharing your personal journey and thoughts.  I agree that hopefully I will be able to forgive also.  Unfortunately my husband has appendix cancer diagnosed June 2019.  He is going in for a very crazy serious surgery called Hipec, on January 15 th, 2020.  It has metastasized to small intestines which they removed 15 inches of that, they removed the appendix since that was primary source.  They removed a portion on large intestines and 23 lymph nodes 3 were cancerous.  So we just finished 12 rounds of chemo and now this big surgery.  So our journey just started 6 months ago and we aren’t close to being done.  I seriously don’t know whose life we are living, but it’s minute by minute.  He is 56 and I’m 50.  We have three kids and I’m scared to death.  But minute by minute.  Well please don’t ever forget to tell your beautiful wife how much she is loved.  As I say you love her more today than yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow... bless you both... I’ll keep posting.  Take the very best care of each other ... View more

Colin81,   I am so sorry to hear you’ve had such a hard time with Cancer.  I am so amazed at how beautifully you speak of your wife.  I also love how you aren’t saying No I Wasn’t Mean.  My husband has said some pretty mean things that I also haven’t repeated back to him.  But I also unfortunately I can’t get them out of my head.   It seems to me you are a kind man, to apologize for even what you Said and what you don’t remember you said.  I actually teared up at how lovely your post was.   Not only do you have a beautiful amazing wife, you my friend are an amazing man.  Bless you both!  Hoping nothing but health and wellness for 2020.   ... View more

Bj067,     I am so sorry for your loved ones passing (partner).  Just remember how much he loved you, and you him.  He is with you everyday in your head and in your heart.  You are an amazing angel, it is incredibly hard to care for our loved ones with Cancer.  I totally understand it’s incredibly hard on the person who has Cancer also.  It is just the worst situation to be in, I don’t know anyone who would choose to be in our situation.  God Bless you for being so big hearted.   ... View more

I am so sorry JjMichael for the loss of your wife.  May you find love and comfort in good friends and family.  My deepest Sympathy.  If of course you need to talk we are all here to help you talk about your loss.  Please take care of yourself and family.  God bless you all ... View more

Hi Jjmichael,  I haven’t seen anymore posts from you.  I hope things have gotten easier on you.  You sound like a very loving husband.  I pray that this New Year is good to you and your wife and family thru sickness and health.  I myself never thought I would be here in this situation, but as most of us don’t.  My husband was diagnosed in June 2019 of Appendix Cancer.  We have just finished his 12 the chemo on Christmas.  He is now having HIPEC surgery January 15, 2020.  I have three kids who love their dad so much, and of course I love my husband and can’t see a day without him.  My heart is broken, to see him be so strong for us.  He doesn’t say anything to me about to much of what he is thinking which kills me.  I am taking minute by minute that’s all I can do.  I really hope you and your family are doing better.  God Bless everyone who has Cancer or a great loving someone to share and care for this loved one with Cancer.   ... View more

Hi Cat1277,  I am so glad even tho it’s  under the worst circumstances we could ever imagine.  I totally get that they have the Cancer, but we are the next in line without the cancer.  It’s weird and I totally get that they take their anger out on the ones they know love them and they love, bc they know we won’t leave them.  But what is more hurtful is to see them be nice to someone else and treat me like a disposable piece of 💩 POOP.  I think I cried many days and nights.  I spoke to one of my husbands friends and he said that he saw a few guys at work, that had seen my husband come in.  That he was sitting and talking to them and cheerful.  I started bawling.  He said what’s the matter Traci.  I said omg he is nice to everyone else but me.  It’s nice to know it selective.  He must hate me!  Steve assured me it wasn’t me, which I’m not sure I was really assured, but went along with it.  He said tell him.  At this time my husband was also on steroids,  which we didn’t know changed his temper quite quickly.  Anyways once the dr’s noticed and weened him off the steroids, I could see him slowly coming back and not as short fused.  Listen we are all scared to argue and upset our loved one who is just diagnosed with cancer.  But we cannot be beaten verbally or emotionally by them and function best for them, our kids, life outside the house and unfortunately we come last and probably allow ourselves a few minutes to have a quick cup of coffee and maybe a quick shower ( no makeup or hair blow out) I have become the quickest hair sleeker backer in the world with wet hair. 😂 haha!  Listen if you don’t speak out they aren’t mind readers.  They are going thru so much are scared and most in pain.  But I will say it again, I will not be treated like 💩 giving all my love and devotion to my husband or anyone.  I am not selectively picking what I will and won’t do for them, so why is my loved one selectively choosing to be nice to everyone but me.  Ya that is not happening anymore.  I have to make clear, once removed from steroids he has been more loving and thankful for me.  We communicate and most of all we love each other.  I wouldn’t change a damn thing, except my husbands diagnosis of course.  But not just the Cancer patient goes thru steps of acceptance, we the caretakers do to.  It’s ok to yell at your spouse or loved one with cancer  when they are treating you like this.  It won’t break them, but actually might wake them up.  I screamed at my husband told him I’m gonna stay at my moms took my keys and left, that obviously I make him so mad/ stressed out and that he treats me like he hates me.  So I will come home take care of him, and if he speaks to me nasty I will leave with a clear piece of mind.  Well that’s when he realized and apologized.  Listen there is no right or wrong way other than treating the ones we love and care for us daily weather we are sick or not like 💩 poop!!!  They deserve the best care, and we can only give them our best when we aren’t beaten down, deflated or or emotionally beaten down.  It’s ok for them to be sad, we are sad about the situation also.  Believe me I will put all my stuff out there, it hasn’t been a cake walk, as a wife, mother and caregiver.  But I love my husband and want him to be cured, I couldn’t picture a life without him.  I think of our three Gorgo kids who deserve to have their dad here watching them grow, marry and help raise our grandchildren as planned.   Life is not easy and it doesn’t come with directions on life 101.  So love today, more than yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow.  ❤️ ... View more