I’m so sorry to hear your sick!  I was wondering, do you have a close friend or friend that speaks to her?  Maybe they could talk to her, but if you feel strongly enough to call her.  I say do it!!! As long as you believe she will be a positive light to you and your treatment...God Bless  ... View more

Heart Hugs to you!  Stay strong and positive...Then kick it in the Ass...you are not alone. I don’t have Cancer but my husband does.  He is very ill.  But positive thoughts will get you positive results.  But now that you have found this sight, you are not alone.  You can speak of your fears and thoughts and we are here to listen and send you positive hugs.  You got this ❤️ ... View more

TonySkala,    also my husband doesn’t know it’s terminal.  He doesn’t want to know.  He believes he will beat this... ... View more

Hi TonySkala,    Thank you for your kind post.  I do ask him to do things, sometimes he pushes and hurts after.  It’s just so much.  Unfortunately I already know he isn’t going to beat this.  He has stage 4 appendix Cancer, that has metastasized.  I have calmed down and started walking since May 8th, just to clear my head.  I don’t leave the house, I walk on my treadmill.  He has actually, been nice since I removed all my things from our bedroom, and told him I was moving to our other house.  He has finally calmed down himself.  He is still my husband no matter what he is going thru and he knows, shit they all know they need me!  I know they are mad and angry and upset and that’s ok, I don’t want them holding it in, that wouldn’t be good for them at all.  So they take it out on the strongest person who they know has their backs no matter what they throw at me.  I was going thru a bad time when I made my post.  Why bc being a caregiver of everyone, but yourself is tiring.  Nobody ever says how are you doing?   All everybody says is, I don’t know how you do it!  You take care of hubby, 3 kids, the animals and my elderly mom every day.  How do you do it?  Well I do it bc it has to be done.  Believe me I want to bury myself in a closet and scream and cry and ask God why!!! But honestly if I didn’t have so much to do, I would probably have a nervous breakdown.  He knows I love him, no matter what.  For the good and the bad!!! So I’m not going anywhere, I will not give in.  I believe it’s easier to walk away!!! But I’m a Fighter and will continue to do what a wife, mother and daughter are suppose to do.  Thank you so much, for reaching out.  Are you or have you been going thru a similar situation?  Hope to hear back from you.   Traci-Rene’e ... View more

Hi Carol, Again Thank you for your response.  I also left out my husband has stage 4 appendix cancer.  He doesn’t know and doesn’t want to know.  He thinks he is gonna beat this.  The dr’s have told us he will not.  They will treat until they can’t.  I have been on here for awhile, and many of those I have spoke to, also have a partner that is mean.  Mine included.  They say they are mean to the ones they know love them and won’t leave.  My husbands sister pasted away 9 days before she turned 56.  My husband is now 56.  My sister in-law was very mean to my mother in-law.  So I know first hand this happens.  I pray for you and your husband that it doesn’t and he appreciates everything you do for him.  That you are a loving wife and angel.  I was doing and am doing everything I possibly can And have done.  If I said something  he would argue with me, I don’t know if he’s mad bc it isn’t me with the cancer.  But I sure in hell didn’t give it to him nor would I.  I love him, but if I’m making him miserable than maybe I just need to leave for sometime.  My heart breaks.  I’m very protective of him, bc I know everything and he chose not to know anything...imagine he’s on the phone telling everyone how hopefully he’ll be cancer free and i have to get up and cry knowing he has 6 months to two years.  Hopefully longer and three kids.  It’s the hardest thing in my life, I’ve ever had to deal with.  I don’t think it’s fair that I know everything, or that his words are mean and leaving me think he doesn’t love me.  Wow what a great feeling that would be huh!!! Like I said I’m just 💔 ... View more

Hi Carrithom,    Thanks for your letter.  I’m sorry to hear about your husbands recent diagnosis.  I’m also sorry that you have to do so much to make yourself feel better.  My husband was diagnosed almost a year ago.  June 18th will be a year.  Please know when I say do things for yourself to feel better, I mean that I’m a positive note.  You found something that works.  I have been there for everything fought with the hospital that he wasn’t leaving until a cat scan or ultrasound or both were done.  That you don’t have that many symptoms and nothing be wrong.  At that time they thought it was a blockage in his intestines.  Twice in the hospital for a week.  Slept there every night until they said I couldn’t.   Then he had surgery June 18th and found out he had appendix cancer loaded.  I didn’t leave his side.  Me and the kids would switch off, so I could run home do some cleaning, make food for kids and then cut lawn if needed at both properties and go take care of my mom.  Then back to hospital by him.  Of course I got the worst shift with him, bc by the time I would get back to hospital was 9-10 pm.  Kids would say bye and nurse would come in with his meds.  And he would pass out.  Yes really got to enjoy time with him.  Gave all the good time individually for daughter but she would selfishly stay when her brothers would get there and not give them their private time with him.  Which made me mad, bc I was being so unselfish.  He is so nice to everyone but me.  He calls people behind my back.  This doesn’t feel like a marriage any more.  The kids yell at me, if I yell at him.  I’m walking on eggshells.  We can’t even talk if we start getting upset with one another the kids jump in.  He will scream I have Cancer.  I was yelled at for telling some people about his Cancer.  I just found out he told the neighbors who we actually don’t care for the wife.  He told them and they slipped and told me.  We don’t even really say anything to them but hi, but he chose to tell them.  I feel like he is 15 years old and everything is a secret.  Not a grown ass man who loves his wife...yes wife!!!! I deserve so much more than I get.  I make homemade We call Cancer Soup!  I have been there !!! Cried uncontrollably when I found out about his Cancer...yet his mom who was living dirt cheap at our other house until I recently told her she had to go, that we needed more money.  And his sister they both came to visit him 4 times in 21 days.  He calls them all the time.  Everyone is wonderfully and I am just shit...he is being made to go back to work on the 27th or has to come up with 2900$ or lose his benefits and insurance.  The saddest part of this I know he will be happier to be with them then me...and it’s killing me!!! Thank you so much for taking the time to try to make me feel better.  But I swear he doesn’t care if I feel better.  All he cares about is the kids and his friends...it’s like I’m dead or he has no sensitivity chip when it comes to me...💔 I am so broken I can’t even find all the pieces... ... View more

hi Cj1, just wanted to check and see how you and your wife are doing.  I am praying for you both.   ... View more

Hi Patches,  Just wanted to check in with you and see how you are doing?  Xo ... View more

Hi Cj1, hoping you had a better day, and your wife was more comfortable today.  Thinking of you both.  Traci-Renee ... View more