You are very welcome Anneidril, If you want to talk about some issue or something.. ill be willing to help . Nice to read that you've helped others like your mom also guided you. Thats a right path! ... View more

Hey Livden96,   I am sorry for your loss. It must have been and still is a harsh time. I can relate, I lost my mother when i was 24 aswell to kidney chancer. 2 years later i lost my dad. (now im 28).   it's important you give the attention to your thoughts and emotions as they come up. Take some alone time to process them. Listen to your body, its trying to tell you there is work/healing work to be done. You will get stronger out of this and make your mother very proud. Im sure of this.    What would you say are your two biggest struggles?   Take care Livden. ... View more

Hey Deb1,   Thank you for your reply. So kind of you to share.  My mother died 4 years ago and my father 2 years ago. I became a father just before he passed away (he had dementia so he couldnt understand he became a grandfather or had my son), But i became a father, a husband, bought a house, took 2 new jobs, had to deal with living together with my gaming addicted brother and his GF, besides this my wife is from asia and didnt understand our langauge so i was alone, in survival mode. But now, my son is 2,5.. I can say since one year life has been stable. The Isolation part i dont feel. I am dealing very well with my parents passing away. This thanks to alot of introspection, studying, reading, watching YouTube teachers about grief/loss/spirituality. I know alot know and i know myself way better than every before. I can also say i am happier than ever before dispite losing my parents. Which might sound crazy but its true. ... View more

Hey lesley, Im sorry for your loss.. I can relate. I sat with her also on the bedside. Know the gasps of air. It seems like you have a lovely way of goodbye, talking about your childhood memories. Im sure your mother choose her moment. You did great in the whole story. My sincere condolences. Im also writing you this message because i want to help people like us. I lost my parents when i was in my mid 20's (now 28). Im doing good now. I can say that with confidence. Do you mind answering 2 questions for me? Ignore it all you want if its inappropriate. - As someone who lost a parent(s)/ family member, what are the 2 biggest struggles you’re dealing with? - Regarding your loss, what would you wish for more than anything else? That’s it. I wish you all the best on your journey in life. Thank you in advance for your reply. ... View more

Hey Sal,   I am reading post and im sorry for your losses. This must be really heavy on you as you discribe.. I know you need to take care of your family. Thats important but remember that the better you take care of youself the more you can be there for others. So take your time when you can. Believe in yourself. There is always light in darktimes.   I lost both my parents in my early 20’s (now im 28). I can say with confidence that i deal with it well now. I want to help people like us and maybe you feel like replying two simple questions. It might help you to gain some clarity.  Excuse me if it's inappropriate, feel free to ignore. Take care.   As someone who lost a parent(s)/ family member, what are the 2 biggest struggles you’re dealing with?  Regarding your loss, what would you wish for more than anything else?  That’s it. I wish you all the best on your journey in life.   ... View more

Hey, Deb1,   I am reading your post and I am sorry to hear this. The reason you cant cope as good in the evening as in the day is because your energy decreases during the day. When we feel more tired, emotions are more likely to control us and we get pulled towards behavior which we actually don't want. Try to take care of your energy and see the evening as the calming time before sleep. Occupate it with a thing to do which you told youself you will do in the day.  Believe in yourself. You can.   I lost both my parents in my early 20’s (now im 28). I can say with confidence that i deal with it well now. I want to help people like us and maybe you feel like replying two simple questions. It might help you to gain some clarity.  Excuse me if it's inappropriate, feel free to ignore. Take care.   As someone who lost a parent(s)/ family member, what are the 2 biggest struggles you’re dealing with?  Regarding your loss, what would you wish for more than anything else?  That’s it. I wish you all the best on your journey in life. ... View more

Hey Lesley,   Im am sorry for your loss. My condolences.  It must have been really dark days in the end.  Believe in yourself. You can. There is Always light. I lost both my parents in my early 20’s (now im 28). I can say with confidence that i deal with it well now. I want to help people like us and maybe you feel like replying two simple questions. It might help you to gain some clarity.  Excuse me if it's inappropriate, feel free to ignore. Take care. As someone who lost a parent(s)/ family member, what are the 2 biggest struggles you’re dealing with?  Regarding your loss, what would you wish for more than anything else?  That’s it. I wish you all the best on your journey in life.   ... View more

Thank you Anne for replying and taking the time to write.   I think having answer reminds you of your mother and thats the hard part. I think it's not that you dont have answer to questions. Its the kind of questions which you would ask your mom and there is the hole.    I see she was a light and guidance in your life. So great to look back at that time where she did this for you. I dont know if you have children or even plan on having but you could be that for them too.    You will find your way, there is Always light!  Take care of yourself first before you can take care of others 😉  Have a blessed day. ... View more

Hey Anne, I am reading your comments and I know what you are going through. Believe in yourself. You can. I lost both my parents in my early 20’s (now im 28). I can say with confidence that i deal with it well now. I want to help people like us and maybe you feel like replying two simple questions. It might help you to gain some clarity.  Excuse me if it's inappropriate, feel free to ignore. Take care. As someone who lost a parent(s)/ family member, what are the 2 biggest struggles you’re dealing with?  Regarding your loss, what would you wish for more than anything else?  That’s it. I wish you all the best on your journey in life.   ... View more