Does anyone feel so lost with there lives not knowing which way to go with there lives after all cancer treatments??
I just feel in limbo all the time, is this normal??
Hi Missy Moo,
When I finished treatment that was exactly how I felt, particularly as my husband believed that now it was all over everything would go back to the way it was. It never does ,however.
That was when I found this site and realised after reading other people's experiences that I actually wasn't crazy.
I returned to work - probably about a month too early as i returned to High School teaching effectively full time 4 weeks after treatment finished. The good thing was that it did bring me out of the self-centred nature of chemo and I had to go back to students and my own kids and just dealing with day to day stuff.
In saying that, the limbo feeling has never quite left as my attitude to life is so different so I view even the normal things differently. And life still revolves around tests and dealing with the neuropathy in my feet everyday as reminders. My tests are every 6 months now, so the ability to feel "norma" is being stretched a little further.
I didn't have any counselling when I finished and regret it. It is something that I feel quite strongly about in that we are so absorbed with what the cancer and what the treatment does to us that when we are cut loose we flounder.
In short (via my ramblings) - you are perfectly normal!!
My advice is to talk to others either professional or via cancer connect and try to re-establish yourself bit by bit.
Take care, Samex
Hey Missy moo,
Misy Moo was my nickname as a kid :)
Just wanted to tell you that what you are feeling is so normal, there is no time frame for when you should suddenly work out what to do and how you feel. It takes time, alot of work and support. After 3 years I am just coming to terms with it all and working out who I am and what I want again.
I have found seeing a psychologist is a great help, sometimes we have so much going on we struggle to sort through what we need to sort through.
best of luck XX Amanda
HI Missy-moo,
I sat and cried this weekend - first good cry in a while - and all I could say to my partner was "I don't know who I am anymore!" It's the first time I've really acknowledged out loud that this time after treatment is such a hard time. I feel in limbo...some days are great, some days are not good - guess I'll just give it time - people travelling the road ahead of me seem to say that it takes time. But sometimes I wonder if I've got time?? So,...can really relate to what you're saying, and feel alittle better as it seems there's quite a crowd out her in "limbo land" 🙂
Thanks guys now i don't feel alone, so it is quite normal to feel a bit lost and in limbo land. I tried telling that to my husband and my family and friends but they seem to not understand me, but i am so glad that you all understand me what i feel. Life is so different now for me too, i do what i want, i say what i feel, if i don't want to do something i don't and so on. I feel my B.C experience has given my the strength to be who i am and just live life and not worry about pettiful negative things.
Thanks again!
Missy Moo
Hi Missy moo,
I think one of the hardest things is when yout family doesn't understand that even though treatment is over you still aren't "better".
Samex
