Grieving

[Kellie22]

Hi I recently lost my father in January to cancer which he fought for 4 and a bit years. We were very close I was the boy he never had but I’m finding it hard not to cry every time I think about him or have the flash back of him laying in bed at the paltive care unit. I was there through it all drove him to all appointments as my Mum doesn’t drive. I have only been back to his grave twice as it hurts to much.

when does it stop hurting so much and when will the crying stop?

[little_stitcher]

Hi Kelly, and welcome to the club no-one wants to join.  You're asking the important questions- and unfortunately in my experience there are no right answers.  What I've learned about grief (from my personal experience and supporting others through it) is that the best way to handle it is to acknowledge your emotions and give yourself time.   There is no set amount of time it will take for the pain to stop, it's different with everyone.  I'm glad you found this forum, it's a great way to vent and grieve with other people who have had similar experiences to you.  Sending big hugs, Emily