Hi Exhausted,
I'm not sure what to say. Dad was very confident that he would get better and NEVER wanted to talk about the future. But i guess that was a family thing too..... my mum and my brother didnt want to talk about the future either. Dad and I talked about stuff sometimes - I was well aware of what was coming and wanted to discuss some things with him, but the talks were short - he really didnt want to talk about it at all.
Now, he's still in Pallitive Care, its been over 4 months and he's decline is painfully slow. He's not able to talk, and NOW, it seems to all of us, he wants to tell us things - he holds us and crys alot. We know what he's trying to say.....
Advice? IS the hospital your recieving treatment from offering any support groups? My dad is in NSW and was being treated at the RNSH and they have a GBM support group. My mum told me the other day she only wishes now that they had gone, and maybe by being around other GBM patients they may have discussed things about the future. I have to agree.... I pushed for them to go, but Dad didnt want to. Its SOOOOO hard - you need some support too, and you will be able to get some, but you need it NOW, not like my mum when dads in pallitive care. Maybe if he's around others who are dealing with the same issues, he can listen, support them, encourage them and at the same time his awareness of whats around the corner will gradually develop?
Its just SOOOO hard. This has been my experience with dad, and everybodys journey is different. I dont know if any of what i have said helps, but i hope somehow it has.
Take care,
Melissa