Hi there. Yes I am terrified as I have read on internet that this next test I am having is to see how advanced cancer is but I haven't been told I have cancer!!!! The registrar came out and kept feeling my tummy for pain but was especially interested in left shoulder pain. My colonoscopy took over an hour and when I read the form for xray it said ?mass. What am I supposed to read from this. Also going through public system I have only seen my gastro in ED. so can't really talk to him. Just so worried ... View more

Hi there. I am in same situation as you as my 83yr old dad has cancer and is gettingworse every day. I am so sick and tired of family saying "he has had a good and long life" even my 2 brothers say this and they never see him. One brother is based in Qld and drives trucks all over Aust but the other one only lives 1hr drive away but never visits!!! I really wish my dad would come and stay with me in his last days but for some reason he is hesitant. I think he may think my health wouldn't cope. But we are so so close and even though he lives 6hr train trip away I ring him every night at 7pm and we have great chats but not so much lately as he is always so out of breath but we always end talk by saying "I love you" which we never have done. I really can't say say that the hurting stops as for me it hasn't and I can't come to terms that dad will go as I can't see a life for me without him(even though I have 2 great kids and 4 beautiful grandkids). But you have definately come to a great website as I have got so much support (more than my family) here and you can vent as often as you like. There are so many wonderful people here. Also I have received a lot of help and support from the Cancer Council helpline. Take care Chris ... View more

Hi there. Thanks for that and he has sounded a lot better since that night. But these patches are not morphein - he said GP said they will help his breathing and he puts one on in the morning and then takes it off at night. I really don't understand. Yeah I am trying my hardest to hang in there but it is so hard. ... View more

Hi there. I know how you feel. I have had my dad with me the past 11 days and he has fallen and sleeps a lot but now that he is back home I really worry as he is on his own. I know when my daughter drove him home I was really sad but I still don't think I have recovered physically from his stay. But I would do it all again just to have that peace of mind that at least when he is here I know what he is doing. Like you I know dad won't be around much longer but I too think all will work out but deep down I know it won't. Everyone tells me to prepare for when dad goes but I just can't do that. Yeah everytime my phone rings I think "Oh no" How do we cope. You take care of yourself xo Chris ... View more

Sailor you are such a wise person and an inspiration to us all. I don'tknow where you get your strength from but I think every time you make a comment you are helping us all. God bless you xo Chris ... View more

Hi there. I know how you must be feeling - pretty much the same as me. My 83yr old dad lives quite a distance from me but has been here the past 12 days and has only gone home today - and boy do I miss him. He had a bad fall when here and sleeps most of the time and like you I have many questions to ask him but he keeps saying "Iam not sick I have a lot longer to go"- even when I know he doesn't.It was so so hard saying goodbye today as I don't know if I will see him again!. I'm sure like my dad your dad knows you love him and as I found these past 12 days just sitting back and chatting about old times has done us both the world of good. I even heard stories from dad that I have never heard before. Spend as much time with your dad as possible. Take care Chris ... View more

Hi Jill. Wanted you to know that my prayers and thoughts are with you and your 2 precious children. You were the first person to chat to me on this wonderful site and now I can't offer you any words of advice except to take care of yourself and those precious kids. xoChris ... View more