Hi there Amie. I totally know where you are coming from. My 83 yr old dad was diagonised with oesophageus cancer last year and had radiation but they wouldn't do chemo as they felt his body wouldn't cope. I have bedn trying to get him to move in with me (I live alone) and he is here now till next week and wants to come back end April for 3 weeks but like you I am only renting and I have this worry if my lease is not renewed(highly unlikely) then what will we do. But he is so positive and at least if he is here with me I know he is eating etc and I can keep an eye on him.As Katie said please ring Cancer Council as they have been a huge help to me especially with the relaxation tape they sent me. Before I couldn't sleep at all and now if I play CD I drift off after 5mins and at least get some sleep. As my dad says to me "keep thinking positive" but its so hard when you are seeing the one you love in so much pain. Take care Chris ... View more

Hi Sammycat.I really feel for your loss and I am a bit behind you. My 83 yr old dad has oesophageus cancer(I still can't say those words-He is dying from cancer!!) I have been trying to get him to come and live with me and he is here now for another week and is talking of coming back in May and stay for 3 weeks. At the moment I just feel relieved that he is here and he has been eating food that I cook for him and even putting on a little weight. Yesterday was awful as he had a bad fall and hit his head on concrete and I thought I had lost him!! I just don't know how I will cope when he does go and I can't even think about it now and am so sick and tired of people saying "you will get over it" but I can't see that happening. Like you my life will never be the same as I will always be listening for his voice or wanting to call him. Does time really heal the pain as so many have told me because I don't think I can live without my dad. Thanks for listening. Chris ... View more

Hey Alana. Like you I would be lost without this site. It has been such a comfort to me when my brothers don't seem to care. I know they love their dad but they just think "he is old so what do you expect"Dad is now down here with me for Easter and MAYBE he will move down but I think he thinks he has all the time in the world to decide!!!! But I have decided to forget about my brothers and leave them alone and I am spending SO much precious time with dad. I know this sounds selfish but I can't think about anyone but my dad at the moment and I need to spend as much time as I can with him. xoxo Chris ... View more

Hi there. I am coming from a different point of view from you. It is not friends but my brothers who I am pushing away as they can only say about my beautiful dad "he is old and we all have to go sometime" but at least I know how my dad feels and he is coming tomorrow for 2 weeks and I think he is ready to move in with me and let me take care of him which is what I want and as far as my brothers are concerned well I think that is their loss and I am so tired of trying to get them on my side. I am just so happy that dad wants to spend his time with me. I just want my dad to be happy and at the moment he is saying that is what he wants for me. So to hell with my brothers. Their loss !! Chrisxo ... View more

Hi Katie. Thanks so much for that. Yes I am home but have to go for more tests next month. But that is the least of my worries!! I think it will be great for me and dad both to be together over Easter and my kids and grandkids are all coming to visit with him. Hope your dad gets over the infections and you all have a lovely Easter too. Take care. Chris ... View more

Hi Sylvie. Like you I find it very hard to talk about my 83 year old dads cancer but I did ring them about 6 weeks ago and they sent me out a package which included a relaxation tape -I really think that has helped me heaps. Before the tape I could only sleep for short periods but since playing their tape I seem to go to sleep fairly quickly and have a decent night (5hr) sleep. I know all the same scary thoughts are there through the day but I really urge you to ring Cancer Council helpline as they as well as this site are helping me so much. Take care Chris ... View more

Hi Katie. Thanks so much for your advice and sorry to have taken so long to answer but I have been in hospital as well. I didn't want to mention anything to dad over phone and he is coming to stay with me for 2 weeks over Easter and I will bring all these issues up with him then and see what happens. But this morning he rang me pretty upset as he said he can't stand what this is doing to me!!!!. As I've said before I know he is more worried about me than himself and I feel So greatful to have my wonderful dad. Maybe when he is here for 2 weeks I can convince him to move down here and at least I will be able to keep an eye on things. Just read that your dad is having more problems. Please remember my thoughts are with you and your dad xoxo Chris ... View more

Hi Katie thabks for that info. I am about to ring dad nowbut I think he will not give me permission to talk to his drs. bUT we will see Chat soon Chris ... View more

Hi there Sailor. I can't talk to dad's doctors as I haven't even met them as he is on Central Coast NSW and I am on sth coast. I have rung his gastro but never received an answer and I'm not sure that dad even wants me to talk with them. But I know I would feel a lot better if I was in contact with them. But I feel that I have no rights. Spoke to dad tonight and he said he is on first increased dose of morphein plus "something" else and he went to sleep and when he woke he was very nausous and then took tablets for that. I don't think he knows what he is taking and as I am so far away and not in contact with his doctors I don't know what to do!!! This situation is so hard to deal with and is impacting on my health( not that it matters) but I just wish he would move in with me then at least I can keep an eye on him- but I can't force him. Thanks for listening AGAIN. Chris ... View more