hey there im not to familiar with ur cancer but my partner had bowel cancer, but the tumor was right near his anus so he has a colostomy now.. he was a bit upset at the start but now hes fine 🙂 it just gets some taking used to.. ... View more

thanks for your replies! is it possible it can come back naturally? ive read that it can be temporary.. ... View more

hey i just was reading your post.. i to am a carer of someone with cancer.. my boyfriend has had bowel cancer the last year.. its a tough journey and can be quite lonely at time.. i feel bad coming on this website to.. one day he was on my laptop and read everything i had been writing here and i felt so guilty but then really angry because i almost feel like this is my diary... we to as partners need to vent away somewhere.. i hate his cancer to i hate how its made him weak and tired.. he was so energetic and full of life and now he's always tired, depressed and our lives have changed a lot... at the start of our journey we didn't have much good news.. but after what i can say has been a horrible emotional roller coaster we have climbed to the top.. he's nearly cancer free! hang in there believe me being positive has great effects.. giving up means giving up.. literally.. you have to remain positive for your husbands sake.. whats on the cards for him? has he had surgery? chemo? ... View more

hi craftyone! thanks for your thoughts.. he is ok its been three weeks now i think he's just struggling a bit.. we were told it'd only be temporary now its permanent.. but your right.. if it weren't for it he prob wouldn't be here with us.. they removed all his tumor which they weren't sure if they could so that's a bonus! i think it is just a big image thing but i told him and he knows il support him.. at the moment he's sore from the stitches in his bottom, did you find you had a lot of pain when they stitched you up? he'll get them removed next week... ... View more

im so sorry to hear that 😞 its awful!! my boyfriend is 23 and just had surgery.. they also put him a colostomy bag and hes very depressed.. he had stage 4 rectal cancer but with radio therapy and chemo it killed it.. have they suggested any of that? never give up hope! he had spots in theblung and liver which they r going to cut out, have u seen other oncologists? like your daughter my boyfriend pushed away his friends, they avoided us like a plague.. i encourage my boyfriend to get up n move about as much as possible, its a struggle though! hang in there 🙂 inbox me if you want to know anything ... View more

thats what my boyfriend says.. its hard because we dont go out a lot, therefore friends have dropped like flies! i knw things will get easier its just frustrating that people expect me to be happy n cheery like i used to.. its like they dont wanna know anything unless im happy 😕 ... View more

i think this is a great idea, i find caring for my boyfriend has left me feeling very lonely and depressed... its something u really have to go through to understand.. ... View more

i agree.. i know as a carer i have lost so many friends because im unable to go out like i used to.. looking after my partner has made me so tired and emotional that i feel there are more important things in life than stressing over what shoes go with what bag... i guess people will never understand unless they go through it themselves.. ... View more