I just saw this post after responding to your other . I was less patient than you when waiting for results. I always asked when we would get them and if I hadn't heard within a day, or two at the latest, I,or my husband would ring my ENT . Even if he said he'd ring I'd ask when and if he didn't I'd call the next day. He got the message that I couldn't cope with waiting . He showed more consideration. Test results usually are available within days but I've never had a bone scan. ... View more

I very much hope that it will be good news for you. Your fiance must be suffering anxiety too. You can prop each other up for now. All the best Ruby . ... View more

I can't add anything to what the others said that will help much. You last sentence says what you really want and I think that sums it up. It is all so new and it must seem as if you will never learn to live with the loss of your husband but in time things usually become easier. Gather support and accept help when you need it . I am sorry that you have to go through this . Talking to your little boy and cuddling him will be a great comfort . I hope you have friends and family with whom you can talk also. ... View more

I don't have the same cancer as you but it is a head and neck cancer that I have. I was diagnosed just over 2 years ago and mine is not considered to ever be cured . Luckily mine was stage 3 with no metasteses as yet. I am not as badly off as many but did struggle for months with depression until I had some counselling. I was 59 when diagnosed and only did relief work but was terminated because I hadn't worked enough the year it was all happening. I sometimes feel life doesn't have enough meaning any more because of that . It must be more difficult when you are younger . Mostly I am happy but there is always an underlying sadness ,missing the life I had. . The side effects of treatment ,although not so big to me now ,are a constant reminder of cancer. I understand what you're saying .You have come a long way . Under the circumstances I think you have done well. I think most of us have the feelings you described but if they become too much you can have more counselling . Those without cancer often cannot understand . It's like a never-ending story. All the best. ... View more

I don't know but maybe look online in some of the cancer sites . There are American ones which suggest doctors in your area .Their health system and insurances are so different to ours. Can't any doctor there give the injections? ... View more

What a shock it must be to have lung cancer at your age. You probably thought that it was a possibility for your old age . I hope you get conclusive results of the tests soon. They may not be good ones (and I hope they are good ones ) but nor is the anxiety of not knowing, and waiting . That is a very scary time . It's so sad that this all happened at a time which would normally be one of the happiest times of your life. You will get a lot of support here .There are so many caring people here. ... View more

I am sorry to see that each day is a struggle for you. What looked like a little bad thing to you at the start turned out to be a big on-going thing . It's often the fact that treatments leave people with such a different life . Have you asked your doctor to prescribe some medication for the pain? If it is nerve pain there are specific medications for that . One I know is Lyrica. If your dry mouth is a problem there may be things to do which can help. I cannot offer suggestions there but I'm sure others here may have ideas. ... View more

There are some people who live with the knowledge that their cancer will almost certainly return .It's a matter of when ,not if. Yet some do manage to live an almost normal life and keep that fear under control. This is most difficult when newly diagnosed but becomes easier over time. I must add that little things can occur which makes a person wonder if it is a possible recurrence. We all must try to live our lives as best we can and try to be happy. ... View more

All the best to you and your wife . You will probably hear from others with the same cancer as you wife's and also from other care givers. I don't know about Yahoo groups but do know that with some Facebook groups it can take from a couple of days to a few weeks to be approved when you ask to join. You may still hear from them but now you have a group where you are already welcome. ... View more

I am glad you feel well for the most part. I will say that I hope you do have arthritis rather than metasteses. Arthritis causing pain is no fun but it is better than bone mets. I really wish that nobody had either of these conditions. I did look up the cat experiment so I get what you mean about how you feel. I hope all goes well with the scans. Let us know . ... View more