So sorry . This news must be devastating . Thank goodness you were persistent . I hope the surgery goes well . You will find support here as others have had husbands with brain tumours . Are your children young ? ... View more

I had thought of Al-Anon but wasn't sure . It is for those affected by another's drinking . It may help you to cope yourself ,well worth trying and your son could get something out of it too . It would be good if your nephew joined this site and talked to other people near his own age who also have cancer . ... View more

Wishing you the best . Online I have come across a lot of couples who both have /had cancer . Even though it gives each more understanding ,each handles the situation so differently ,I think . ... View more

Julie your length of survival after that prognosis is amazing AND it's still on-going . ... View more

Sorry I can't offer any advice to help your nephew . I can understand his pessimism as having cancer often causes some degree of depression . If he can be talked into counselling that would be great . ... View more

I don't have any personal experience of your cancer but I would probably be guided by my doctor . Sometimes we never really know what the best choice is, but we learn to live with whatever . ... View more

I didn't think you were trying to tell others how to think or feel. I understood that you were speaking for yourself . ... View more

I am so sorry that you have lost your mum and so suddenly . Having what she had would have been a lot to bear ,even for a short time . My thoughts are with you and your dad . ... View more

It's great that you've developed that attitude . I am aware everyday of having had cancer and one that isn't curable but it doesn't stop me getting on with life . It took a while to get there but you can only do your best and hope for the best . ... View more

There was a story on t.v. about someone who did the same as you are planning . I haven't seen it ,just the preview . I think it's a huge thing and very brave . ... View more