Carers can be angry too, and this is the perfect place to express it. It's really hard being a carer, because you're often caring for the person you would normally vent to pre diagnosis. I have to admit that I sometimes vented to my husband while he was going through chemo- he ended up giving me as much support as I gave him- but I had no one else that had any idea what I was going through (I didn't find this forum until after he'd finished his chemo). But you can always vent here, and at any time of the day or night (that's the beauty of a web forum). Know that there are lots of people here who know that caring for someone with cancer is really hard and not fair. Sending a big encouraging hug that's just for you, Emily ... View more

Carers can be angry too, and this is the perfect place to express it. It's really hard being a carer, because you're often caring for the person you would normally vent to pre diagnosis. I have to admit that I sometimes vented to my husband while he was going through chemo- he ended up giving me as much support as I gave him- but I had no one else that had any idea what I was going through (I didn't find this forum until after he'd finished his chemo). But you can always vent here, and at any time of the day or night (that's the beauty of a web forum). Know that there are lots of people here who know that caring for someone with cancer is really hard and not fair. Sending a big encouraging hug that's just for you, Emily ... View more

Hi there. I'm glad you found this forum, it's a great place to get things off your chest. Everyone here has either been through the diagnoses process, or seen someone they love go through it, and we all know how much it sucks. We're all here for you if and when you need it. love Emily ... View more

We grieve with you for the loss of one of our community. Emily xx ... View more

Hi Garyowencat,I'm so sorry to hear what you and your Dad are going through. Your title asked "How do you keep going"- celebrating small daily successes is just the way you will keep going. Keep in touch with this forum, too. It's a great place to vent/share/encourage/ask/tell: we're all in similar situations (although noone is exactly the same), so we can all understand a bit about what everyone else is going through. Keep posting, we're all cheering you on. love Emily ... View more

Hi Amity, I'm in a similar situation (sort of). My husband was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin's lymphoma 3 years ago, which is incurable. He had chemo, went into remission half way through (big yay!!) and has been doing brilliantly ever since. BUT, there's always that thing about when will it come back... I discussed this with my counsellor one day (I needed counselling to come to terms with everything that happened), and he said that because we were both being vigilant with his health, because we knew the threat he was facing, any changes that happened would be noticed very quickly, and it would be caught very early. I found this fairly comforting, and I hope you do too. In the meantime, don't forget that you are healthy today. Sending big encouraging hugs, Emily ... View more

Hi. I just wanted to drop you a line because I can so clearly remember being where you are. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lymphoma 3 years ago, and I remember those days in the chemo ward. I think your attitude will get you far ("Existing until better days come")- it really is a matter of taking it one day- or sometimes one hour- at a time. Eventually you will look back and realise how far you have come. Sending you big gentle hugs, Emily ... View more

Hi Amanda, I'm so sorry that this is so terrible. I just wanted to reach out and give you a virtual hug. **hug** love Emiy. ... View more

Hi Michael, I don't think there is a normal when it comes to dealing with a cancer diagnosis. Having said that, what you wrote does make sense to me. My husband was diagnosed with NHL 3 years ago, and I remember how freaked out we both were in the first couple of weeks. Don't forget it's only been two weeks, which is no time at all in emotional terms. Keep hanging in there, both of you. I wish you both all the luck in the world. Emily. ... View more

I'm so glad you're 'out the other side' of all this. Remember to be gentle with yourself, and know that we're all cheering for you. Sending big gentle hugs. x ... View more