It's Felicity here from Cancer Council Supportive Care Team,  I am so sorry to hear what you are experiencing. Especially at a time that is so stressful for the entire family. Please feel that you can reach out to us and have a chat on 13 11 20. Alternatively you can call 1800 737 732 Which is 1800 RESPECT.    Best wishes,  Felicity Supportive Care Cancer Council NSW  ... View more

Are you sure he has cancer? That was my first thought. My second thought was that if his behaviour has already been a problem, why would you feel you have to stay with him? I am sorry if he does have cancer - as I would be for anyone with it - but that doesn't change the fact that there were already many challenges in the relationship. Others may disagree, but I think you would be taking on more than you can - or should - cope with. From what you have written, it seems you are constantly justifying why you stay with him - making excuses for his behaviour eg. it's because he is out of work etc. It's kind of like marrying someone who has already shown that he is abusive. Why would you do that? ... View more

You are so wrong and you are spreading misinformation. I’ve only registered to reply to your post to spread awareness.  I was diagnosed with follicular lymphoma stage 4b in 2021 my blood tests were perfectly fine.  also my aunt passed away from leukaemia. She had regular blood tests. Her blood counts were all good until it was too late.  ... View more

Oh sweet lady. You are awesome. I know it is inappropriate but I wish I could support you more. It seems to me that your outlet is helping others....that's me too. I stayed on line with a dear woman who was sitting with her husband in the  US...hospice while he died.... using what I knew from my experience with Chris....I was there for her as you have been for others  and me in the forum. Gosh this is special stuff. I do believe the wounded heal their wounds by being there for others.   As to hubs not having a bucket list....I feel his is fixing the place up for you my lovexx ... View more

MerrillPatton,    I don’t think your weak.  I’m sorry for your hurt and pain.  As I am dealing with my husbands cancer.  I myself have lost my dad.  I went thru a lot and it’s been since 2007 when he passed.  I still have days where I cry for him.  To hear his voice, a smile even an argument.  I would do anything for another day, even an hour.  Please don’t be sorry.  We all need to vent.  You are not selfish or any other names.  You are hurting as we all are.  Please know I totally understand and I’m sorry.   ... View more

OK.  There are probably  still supports available through your partner's treating hospital though.  Check out the social work department or ask his Dr.  Good luck- let us know how you're going!   ... View more

Hello, after reading your post i feel like we have so much in common... I hope that you have healed since posting this. Thank you for being so honest. Sending my love and prayers  ... View more

Hi Ky, unfortunately this is not uncommon during cancer treatment.  A lot of people have trouble processing the trauma of cancer constructively, and there is also the disease process itself and some drugs that can also make people aggressive and  difficult to be around.  You could discuss this with your Mum's doctor (or your own) to see if there is anything they can do to help.  There may also be counselling services for you or your Mum (or both!) available through the hospital, and practical help through the social work department as well.  All in all you are definitely not alone.   Having said all that, you don't have to stay where you and your kids are abused.  There are plenty of resources available to your Mum if you are not able to continue looking after her.  Personally (and this is just my opinion) I do think you need to put your kids welfare first- unless they are older they need looking after more than anyone in this situation.   Good luck with whatever you decide- know that there are resources available to you.  ... View more

Sadly I know all to well how you feel. My husband was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer in July and for me I have a couple of friends only that check in with me to make sure I am doing ok and some get me out (which I always feel guilty about), Friends that we have had for years don't call anymore, and the ones that do are people that we have never been really close to but they are the ones that call frequently to see how he is doing. One of them have gone through cancer and chemo, a different kind so he knows how he is feeling. We appreciate those calls so much. Family are the others that check in frequently. ... View more

Thank you so much! It is a terribly isolating situation - living with cancer - and I often feel disloyal for talking to my family and friends about the things I am finding hard. It’s a relief to be able to have a vent on here!  ... View more