Hi, My family, well unfortunately my eldest sister died in 2003 after suffering for 11 years with remissions & reoccurences. My second eldest sister has been in remission now for nearly 20 years, & my MIL is doing well too. I wish you all the best for your coming op & treatments. I'm sure things will go well. Dont forget to ask questions of your treatment team. The only silly question is the one that isn't asked. There are people on this site too, who can help with remedies etc for any side effects you may suffer. Cheers Budgie ... View more

Hi @Andz, If the mouth ulcers get too sore, see if your GP will prescibe some lignocaine/lidocaine for you. It is fantastic stuff for taking the pain away. Budie ... View more

Hi @Dana99, This absolutely happens to an awful lot of people. Relationships go straight to the 'too hard' basket when cancer rears its ugly head. Not all the time - there are some wonderful people who stick by you, no matter what. Anyway, welcome to this site. You are here now, & there are alot of good people who can offer you advice, lend an ear when you need to download, & you have the opportunity to just write all your frustrations away. Both of my older sisters were diagnosed with breast cancer before they turned 40, & my mother-in-law was diagnosed a couple of years ago. Cancer is a terrible disease & it's everywhere. There have been alot of advancements made in the treatment of breast cancer though, & the survival rates are good. Have you decided on your treatment options? Budgie ... View more

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I'm sorry you've broken your foot. I know they take a long time to heal properly. Even if you can't play anymore, are there other ways you could be involved? If your family are all struggling, maybe you could find somewhere that will give you group therapy sessions? It's just an idea to think about. You ate right in saying that sometimes a stranger is best to talk with - there's no preconceived ideas etc. I hope you find some relief. 🙂 ... View more

Hi @LostatSea, Yes, it should get easier over time, but, in the meantime you need help. There's nothing wrong with crying, so cry as much as you need to. Talk! Talk to your family & especially to your children. Talk to counsellors. You can speak with someone from the Cancer Council on 131120, you can call Lifeline, or a priest. You can talk to a friend or talk to us here on this site. Its hard to come to terms with loosing someone you love, so talking about it is a wonderful way to cope. Did your father have a hobby? If so, is it something you would care to take up? That could be a way to feel connected with him. Take as much time as you need to grieve - everyone is different. Just don't keep it bottled up, & don't think you're alone. There are people who will listen & can help. All the best Budgie ... View more

Hi JC56, I've just sent you a private message 🙂 ... View more

Hi @jimmy72, Welcome to this site. I have no information about what you're going to go thru, but I'd just like to wish you the best of luck. My only advice is to read as much as you can on what the treatment involves, write down any questions you have that arise from your research so you can ask & put your mind at rest. All the best to you. Cheers Budgie ... View more

My gosh @ JC56, Did you even get any sleep before you drove off this morning? I hope you had a clear run with no roos, & the procedure went well. I've loved all the moving around that we've done. I've been able to see alot of the country, made good friends, & got rid of alot of clutter every time we moved. Its amazing how much junk you can accumulate in a short time. My children all grew up to be resilient, responsible adults, very capable of looking after themselves. The only hiccup along the way was how different each state/territory is in educating the children. You would think the country would have one educational system, but each state is different. That made life interesting for the kids - a couple of them actually skipped a year when we moved from NSW to QLD. When we moved back to NSW, they were a year ahead of their old friends. But we had wonderful journeys when we travelled between postings. Anyway, I hope today has gone well for you 🙂 🤞. Cheers ... View more

Keep up the good attitude & you'll do well 😉. I'm glad you've had a relatively easy time of it. I'm fine thanks with no real problems at the moment. Just plodding along 🙂. You take care as well. Cheers ... View more